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| mandy | | posted 14-Jun-2002 10:54pm |
A million. I fall in love romantically with anyone attractive who is kind to me. |
| Amanda | | posted 14-Jun-2002 11:33pm |
I've been truly in love with 2 people. The first one was the father of my son, who I now can't stand, but I still love. (If that makes sense to you.) And, the other is my current SO, Dominic. I've been in LUST with lots of men and several women. |
| Oscar | | posted 14-Jun-2002 11:35pm |
3 |
| moonstone | | posted 14-Jun-2002 11:45pm |
I don't know...I think I thought I loved everyone I was romantically involved with. |
| Amanda | | (reply to moonstone) posted 14-Jun-2002 11:51pm |
I used to do that, too. Now that I look back on it, I realize that I was only lusting after so many of them and hated some of the others. When I was in my early teens, I think it was more the fact that I had someone to call my boyfriend than it was that I loved or cared about them. |
Enheduanna  | | posted 15-Jun-2002 12:17am |
I'd say I've been "in love" with four people, although I've had romantic relationships with more than that, some of whom I truly cared about but with whom I was not in love. |
Kristal_Rose    | | posted 15-Jun-2002 3:12am |
6, I just answered this on the other survey. oh wait, I can include H in this one, so 7. |
| kaleb777 | | posted 15-Jun-2002 6:38am |
Romantically in love with? 0. I've never been in love although I've 'been' with hundreds of women. I don't think I'm capable of really loving another person apart from my parents of course. |
| dora | | posted 15-Jun-2002 7:27am |
2. Two different kinds of love. But I'm in love with every partner I pick...well almost...but I don't LOVE them.Anyway they are usually people I can learn to love if they give me time.Those 2 people I loved them,even thought I'm not talking about a love-you-forever kind of love.Just a little love.  |
| moonstone | | (reply to Amanda) posted 15-Jun-2002 9:36am |
Yeah, I know that lust is all it was, too. It was hard to differentiate between the two...I felt the same way you did. |
| Irene007 | | posted 15-Jun-2002 11:50am |
1 - It's Ben.
(if "puppy love" counts, then 2 and we didn't make out...) |
| confetti | | posted 15-Jun-2002 12:42pm |
I wish I could say for certain Anj. But all I know is that I have a lot of feelings for him, but not necessarily love. |
| mandy | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 15-Jun-2002 2:51pm |
 Why? |
| cuteasabutton | | posted 15-Jun-2002 2:52pm |
Three. One I married, one is married to a friend of mine that I still talk to and see, and one I have not seen or spoke to for about 9 years. We made love the last time we saw eachother and then shortly after that I got married. I wonder about him all the time, and I still love them all. |
| kaleb777 | | (reply to mandy) posted 15-Jun-2002 4:55pm |
I don't know. I sometimes feel like I have a black, cold stone for a heart. I really haven't felt like I would want to spend a few months with a woman let alone the rest of my life. I think I'm just a cold, detached person who is so comfortable by himself that it would be wrong to sentence a woman to a life of emotional apathy. I really don't attach to people. |
| Dino | | posted 15-Jun-2002 5:49pm |
zero. I'm a psychopath. |
| Frostbrand | | posted 15-Jun-2002 9:13pm |
4. And every last one of them rejected me like a bad kidney. |
Galomorro  | | posted 15-Jun-2002 10:16pm |
Zero. I might care about a friend or two but I could not really say it was in any way "romantic." |
| mandy | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 16-Jun-2002 12:00am |
Has it always been that way? Were you like that when you were young as well? |
| freebird_old | | posted 16-Jun-2002 6:08am |
Maybe one. |
| SueBee | | posted 16-Jun-2002 2:19pm |
Six people I had very strong feelings for, not counting lots of other crushes. One was the guy I was married to for 13 years, the others were all female. I've now settled down with the best of the bunch, to live happily ever after. |
| mandy | | (reply to SueBee) posted 16-Jun-2002 2:38pm |
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| cody | | posted 16-Jun-2002 7:03pm |
Two... down side, they were best friends. |
| cody |
Brian, did you ever go to www.sosuave.com like I said you should... I'm tellin' ya, it's good stuff. ;). It works. |
| grmbrand | | posted 17-Jun-2002 8:23am |
Four, including my wife. |
| kaleb777 | | (reply to mandy) posted 17-Jun-2002 12:10pm |
Yes. I remember sitting by myself at primary school and even finding corners of the school where no one else went where I could go to eat lunch. Even today, since a good friend quit work, I eat lunch in my car rather than in the work cafeteria. My parents moved around a lot when I was a kid so I never got to have any close friends. I have a real problem trusting anyone since I really haven't got to know anyone long enough to feel like I can totally trust a person. I have managed to survive as a total individual, depending on myself alone at all levels of school. I also got sent to boarding school (high school) in another city because my father and I didn't get on. The school sort of took care of kids who were problems (I attacked my father as a teen) so there were kids from all over. Since my home was so far away from the school and most students came from a closer larger city, I went home for holidays to a city where I had no one to hang out with. If people leave, I usually have few feelings. When my grandmother died I was over it in a day. That sounds cold, but I really didn't feel any loss. Everyone I have ever known left me somehow, or I left them by moving. I've learnt to keep people at a distance because I do fear attachment. Is this open enough? I wanted to say more but this is is public. I've pretty much resolved myself to not letting anyone get to close. |
| mandy | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 17-Jun-2002 7:42pm |
That was a very brave response, especially here in open post. Thank you. I'm honored. That really helps me to see where you are coming from. I can totally see how you could have evolved like that. Makes perfect sense. |
| LuridHope | | posted 17-Jun-2002 11:13pm |
It's been so long, I don't even know anymore... Everytime I feel like I'm in love days it just makes me completely miserable. |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 18-Jun-2002 4:24am |
I was an outsider during my school years too. Usually I was to timid to talk to folks, or at least women, or at least not when there wasn't some work-like excuse to talk. |
| kaleb777 | | (reply to mandy) posted 19-Jun-2002 10:47am |
Yeah, I can't believe I hit 'Submit' on that one.......... |
| kaleb777 |
I'm not really shy, I just don't feel like doing the 'people' thing all the time. I don't get the whole smalltalk crap. That's why I really miss my workmate. He and I could just talk with no effort at all, and when there was silence it wasn't awkward. I think a real friend can sit beside you doing their own thing and feel comfortable enough to make the odd comment, or go and get a beer or whatever. I've only met a few people in my life that I feel completely comfortable around. |
| mandy | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 19-Jun-2002 2:51pm |
I seem to have a way of making people submit. Maybe it's my innocent, angelic personality Seriously, that meant a lot. It's funny to me how we were so different as youngsters(I craved love and attention and affection) and yet we both ended up in that same shut down place as adults. |
| kaleb777 | | (reply to mandy) posted 19-Jun-2002 3:00pm |
I really hate attention. I can't stand even my mother looking at me. |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 19-Jun-2002 7:02pm |
I wasn't saying we were alike, just vaguely similar, and the point was that people change. I'm sure there are plenty of folks you could get along with great, it'd just be harder to find them, after all, they don't announce themselves with smalltalk. |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 19-Jun-2002 7:13pm |
I used to avoid being in photos. I was like the silent watcher. When I changed gender personalities, I'd prance with my kite into the background of photagraphers settings. You sound like you failed to meet your mom's expectations and lost self-esteem in the process. My guess is you haven't yet reached that juncture where you feel completely solid about your position when conversing with mom. is she still around? If you hate attention because you are uncomfortable about who you are, maybe you should be working on that first. I do know folks who are very solid with themself, and merely consider smalltalk a disharmonious distraction though. They'll always look you in the eye with complete peace and integrity though. I don't quite see you in that camp. I still think in your case it's a symptom that there are things to work on. |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 19-Jun-2002 7:22pm |
*flashes on how that christmas kangaroo sketch had the kids beat up the roo, (could just as well have been dad) and relates that to a deeper aspect of K.* anyhow, it seems you ought to take a brief look at who you are in terms of what you went through with your parents, and see what to keep and toss from all that. |
| mandy | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 19-Jun-2002 7:39pm |
What are you afraid people might see? say? do? People other than your mother, that is, I mean, nobody in their right mind enjoys anything about their mothers.  I crave attention and hate it. I want everyone to love me, worship me and leave me alone, don't look at me...go away. I am totally fudgeed in the head. |
| autumnlight | | posted 19-Jun-2002 8:46pm |
One |
| kaleb777 | | (reply to mandy) posted 21-Jun-2002 12:24pm |
I am you! |
| kaleb777 |
look at Mandy's reply to me. She and I are almost identical, as far as how we feel inside. |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 21-Jun-2002 1:17pm |
Yeah I know, she's working on breaking through it though. You're a bit tougher cookie. Hope you had a cool solstice. I go hiking up local hill and always have a mystical nature journey. At the peak was one humongous white honeysuckle like flute blossom. I discovered a few other new plants, and spiders which weave funnels into holes in the ground. I once read a book on them. Did you know they have tons of drastically different weaving patterns? I saw plenty of animals, the lotuses were in bloom. It was drizzling (I intentionally planned a shower bath at the soltice moment before hiking up). I listened to the drizzled wire towers, and noticed how it was really a river of electrical water. I chanted om up on the peak, and each time I did so, a constuction vehicle below reverberated back in a matching pitch many octaves lower. I hoped to find a 20" bicycle wheel (for my home built moped) when I was up there, and indeed, buried in a gully off the summit trail was half such a bike. I'm worn out though. I had to stay up all night. Tomorrow I have to choose between a soltice gathering for my church, or for all the earth hippie activist types. (hears kaleb grumbling now.) (it's LA, they're not hugging trees.) |
| kaleb777 |
I know a Kiwi woman who stayed with me a while and now lives in Byron Bay in Northern New South Wales, just over the border from where I live, about 2 hours away. It's a place I think you would love. She sits in town beating her African drum at the moon. They have huge solstice concerts and ceremonies. Not far away is the town of Nimbin, where every year they hold the Hemp Festival and Mardi Grass where they have a mass smoke. These sites will give you an idea of the type of people that live in Northern NSW. http://www.earthwise.org.au/http://www.nimbinmardigrass.com/http://www.hippy.com/havens3.htm#downThis is where a friend of mine bought his solar tracker for his photovoltaic system - http://www.rpc.com.au/services/newsletters/26nove99.htm I think the address in Nimbin says it all - 1 Alternative Way, Nimbin NSW2480 Nimbin connection - http://www.witches.com.au/Just north of Brisbane there is also a yearly fire festival in Woodford called the Woodford Folk Festival - http://www.woodfordfolkfestival.com/ but there's something wrong with the site. As a matter of interest, the Byron Bay area has many anti-capitalist marches. The Byron social security office also has the most unemployed people on file, and Byron is the town that collects the most unemployment benefits per capita in Australia, all paid for by evil capitalism generating all the wealth these parasites enjoy. Of course it's our winter solstice right now, so there are a lot of bonfires on the beach in Byron. |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 21-Jun-2002 2:43pm |
I really need to get to sleep now, but I really look forward to reading these sites. What you say here has me thinking i need to move to australia. If I'm not a hippie, i'm at least hippie sentimentalist (at least when they've found a self-sustaining method of survival). I don't know if there are many left in the US. On my honeymoon in '81 people were calling us hippies; we thought the hippies were a couple hundred folks who lived with their tie-dyed llamas and attended camping festivals. I guess some of that still exists. NthSome pointed out a burning-man fest that caught my eye. |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 21-Jun-2002 2:44pm |
I wonder if they even use season names at the equator. |
| kaleb777 |
Darwin, in the Northern Territory calls their seasons 'wet' and 'dry'. |
| mandy | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 21-Jun-2002 5:35pm |
Hey!!!!!
Doppleganger! |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 22-Jun-2002 3:04am |
Thanks, which are when? |
| kaleb777 | | (reply to mandy) posted 22-Jun-2002 7:03am |
Huh? |
| kaleb777 |
In the southern hemisphere summer, the inter-tropical convergence zone- the line where equatorial heat forces moisture laiden air to rise where it cools and condenses forming tropical rains - moves south to cross northern Australia. In addition, the high heat in the central deserts causes air to rise over central Australia which drags more monsoonal air over northern Australia. So the southern summer, from November to February, is the wet season in Northern Australia. BTW, at the same time, Southern Australia has very little rain in summer. Southern cities get wet, cool winters and dry, hot summers. The northern wet/dry seasons don't change the temperatures up there. Darwin has 32C (about 90F) all year around. |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 22-Jun-2002 7:29am |
Cool. Sounds heavenly. Say, do you have mosquitos and dragonflies? What sort of insects are a pain to live with down there? |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 22-Jun-2002 7:32am |
identical person = doppelganger (like a shadow, more supernatural than a clone.) |
| kaleb777 |
We get mossies in summer after a lot of rain. The city council tells people to make sure there is no pooled water left around. Most houses have insect screens and we burn citronella candles or mosquito coils when we have bbq's. Mossies only bite at dusk. We do have dragonflies. There aren't that many insect that are annoying. We have fire ants now that came in cargo from South America I think, but big deal. There's already so many poisonous things here, one more won't worry people. Spiders are the most dangerous, although I only know of two people who have been bitten and they get pretty sick for a long time. You just have to use common sense. Don't stick hands in piles of wood or down holes and wear shoes.
Yeah, I knew what a doppelganger is but I caouldn't think why Mandy said that. It was only after I posted the reply that I saw what I said yesterday. |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 22-Jun-2002 8:51am |
Shoes. Our mosquitoes work round the clock, though I suppose are worse at dusk. There aren't that many here unless you're out camping. Bees have become rare too. The desert has rattlers and scorpions. The forests often have poison oak. On occasion one runs into a black widow spider. I hate mosquitos. |
| kaleb777 |
For all our really nasty poisonous creepy crawlies, we down have things like bears that seek you out and chew on you! Our thingys try to avoid us. Bears go for you. My American mate tells me about those smelly things you guys need to suspend in trees to distract bears and attract them away from CHEWING ON PEOPLE'S HEADS!!! At least the plants here are nice to us, if you forget the fact that thousands of acres of trees filled will oil and covered in flaky, shedding bark will literally explode into flames if someone flicks a cigarette out a car window.
Yeah, I hate mossies too. That's one species I'm sure would never be missed if it went extinct. Hey, if you knew that by turning on your washing machine a power plant outside LA would emit a bit of pollution that would kill the last female mossie, would you turn that switch? I sure as crap would! |
| mandy | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 22-Jun-2002 12:44pm |
I meant doppelganger(sp). It means lookalike or double. We're emotional doppelgangers. Literally translated, I believe it means someone who could "pass" as your "double". |
| kaleb777 | | (reply to mandy) posted 22-Jun-2002 12:57pm |
Yeah, I know that now. It's a German name isn't it? I re-read my previous comments and figured out what was going on. It's hard to keep track sometimes. What a pair we make huh? You know we'd probably have a fudging awesome time together if we could only get passed our neuroses.  |
| mandy | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 22-Jun-2002 1:28pm |
I can see it now: *kaleb decides after 3 days of nervousness and fear, to call mandy and ask her to meet him for a beer* *mandy's phone rings* *standing close to the phone biting her fingernails and frowning, she refuses to answer, in case it's someone she hates* *mandy decides after three days of heart wrenching struggle and confusion to stop by kaleb's house and knock on his door to see if he'd like to go for a beer* *There's a knock at kaleb's door* *He hides and pretends he's not home in case it's someone he hates*  and yes, it's German.... |
| kaleb777 | | (reply to mandy) posted 22-Jun-2002 1:39pm |
Mandy calls Kaleb, caller ID shows 'withheld' - Kaleb too paranoid to answer. Kaleb calls Mandy. Caller ID shows +61 (Aussie prefix). Mandy freaks thinking 61 is code for the Feds. Doesn't answer. Good times are averted unfortunately. |
| mandy | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 22-Jun-2002 1:56pm |
sad sad sad We could drink, say stuff we really mean, fall down, deny we said that stuff, vomit.....and then go out for bacon and eggs. |
| kaleb777 | | (reply to mandy) posted 22-Jun-2002 2:17pm |
Yeah! I'm hungry now you dog! Tell me, what city do you live in? Don't worry, I;m not trying to track you. I need to get a perspective on where you're coming from. I find it hard to keep track. Do you write down everyone's details on SC? How do you remember everything? |
| mandy | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 22-Jun-2002 2:25pm |
I live an hour North of Seattle, Washington USA and an hour south of Vancouver, BC Canada. Track me, I don't care. You're more afraid of me than I am of you I don't write things down. No need to and I don't always remember everything, some stuff just sticks in my mind. It's easier, of course to remember things about the people from SC I have actually met in real life because I've been to where they live and seen their part of the country and have wonderful memories of times shared with them there and I truly care about each and every one of them. Call me a dog again...... *offers you some Fried Pork Rinds* |
| kaleb777 | | (reply to mandy) posted 22-Jun-2002 2:37pm |
Oh my God, pork rinds, you really know how to get to a guy! Tell me where I live if you can remember the details |
| mandy | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 22-Jun-2002 2:39pm |
I don't remember. Australia is a big continent. |
| kaleb777 | | (reply to mandy) posted 22-Jun-2002 2:41pm |
In Brisbane Metro Babe. Have a look at your atlas. South East Queensland, where the queens seek freedom |
| mandy | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 22-Jun-2002 11:52pm |
Cool...I'll check it out..... |
| LuShes | | posted 23-Jul-2002 10:40pm |
4 i think, or less |
| Maarten | | posted 22-Aug-2002 12:55pm |
Only 3. Sandra, Henriet and Mireille. |
