How do you respond to people who you dislike on Survey Central?

posted 25-May-2002 5:50am

I don't dislike anyone here.

jettles

posted 25-May-2002 5:55am

depends, and mostly it is that i don't agree with opinions of people. most everyone here i don't "really" know them so it is hard to say that i dislike them. when someone is truly abusive for no reason then i will tell them so and not talk to them that often.

posted 25-May-2002 7:21am

I call them "Dubbl-trubbl" and leave them be. It's their world too. I vow to be at the butt-end of a dispute here on SC rather than to ever be a butt-end about one.
Like my father never said: Walk away. Just walk away.
(My father never said that, see, because he was a boxer once, went against his grain.)

(reply to Kristal_Rose) posted 25-May-2002 7:22am

And, you're mutually not-disliked.

(reply to NthenSome) posted 25-May-2002 8:23am

'The buck stops here.' was a useful placard. Double trouble in a bubble-gum like bazooka joe comics?

dora

posted 25-May-2002 8:57am

1)be nice
2)challenge their opinions
3)don't reply to their comments

Enheduanna

posted 25-May-2002 9:03am

I challenge their outlook or opinion, or I filter them.

juliw

posted 25-May-2002 9:48am

I don't dislike anybody on this site.

bobofwestgate

posted 25-May-2002 11:22am

I'm fairly new here and it takes a lot to make me dislike a person.

Lahdee

posted 25-May-2002 11:58am

There is no one on this site that I dislike. :) If someone is quick to judge me and acts snotty, I tend to be snotty in return, but I shouldn't be that way and try not to, unless I'm already in a bad mood. lol Actually there is one person I find mildly annoying but they aren't being rude or anything to anyone else so I shrug it off. I'm not going to be all rude just because someone's 'different' behavior is annoying. lol

Irene007

posted 25-May-2002 11:59am

I wish they would go away...

I have a very big problem with dishonesty and do not appreciate being mislead. I've always been referred to as being "honest to a fault". What you see is what you get, no tall tales here!

Biggles

posted 25-May-2002 12:19pm

I have gone from survey to survey commenting on what particular (disliked) users have said to others and just generally. But only when they're actually trolls - like Dubbl.

Regular users I might have a small spat with on a particular survey (and once taken over into the forum) but I think we've always made-up.

There is no-one that I dislkike intensely here, but the few people that I'm not so keen on I'm not mean to. Each to their own. Generally by discussing an issue (where they're capable of that) with someone I haven't been too keen on, I warm to them at least a little.

confetti

posted 25-May-2002 2:00pm

Calmly and politely, as I do with everyone, I believe. But in a wretched mood I'm likely to send some subtle nastiness back

posted 25-May-2002 2:16pm

I clicked a bunch of these because it depends on the level of disagreement and dislike and also on my mood and their initial actions or subsequent reactions. I have a tendency to want to be diplomatic but there are times my evil self takes over and I lack the maturity to let it go.
I have handled some situations with great humor and maturity and in these situations I have been able to turn situations around and gain friends from enemies.
I have handled others with great immaturity and spite(though never anonymously)and there are still a couple of people here who stick in my throat like a hunk of poisoned apple causing me to sputter and choke. **coff coff* Joe *coff coff*
I do not regret anything I've said or done here though. I am only human and my inherent goodness and love of mankind makes up for any times I have lacked the self control to let things roll off of me without reacting.

(reply to NthenSome) posted 25-May-2002 2:19pm

Oh and the Joe mentioned in my comment above is username JoeSchmoe0000whatever and not anyone else here that happens to have the name Joe.

Cleo

posted 25-May-2002 3:10pm

Usually I try to stay away from ALL negativity. Negativity usually only breeds more negativity,& that never ends nice.Before you know it,it becomes an ugly sight spreading through the SC community like an out of control cancer.

There was only one person(well I don't consider "Negative Anonymous Users" a person in my mind)who attacked me in one survey. I totally went ballistic on him/her.That's one user that I DO hope is gone. What kind of a filthy mind types things like that to a perfect stranger??
Normally I try to give people the benefit of the doubt.You know?? Like. Just so happens that day they may have had a rough day at work.

Or they were PMSing (I heard a news report saying that men also experience something like this also).BIG TIME! Or they might have just gotten into an argument with their SO or other family members. Or they just received some bad news. Like they just lost their job or a family member. Thelist goes on. Y BUt you know!
Those are the times I just let comments go in one ear & out the other.

But to just attack someone in a crude,obscene,way is just SO UN-COOL!! It shows a lack of class on their behalf. I hate it when people show a lack of class. But the thing is ....if YOUR very passionate about what you said & then reply to the crude rude person it sometimes reduces you to their level.

Some people are just natural instigators. Sad! Other than that I just about like.....no love everyone here.......well the ones that I DO know on a personal level.

I believe in PEACE & HARMONY. & live & let live.

Cleo

(reply to Lahdee) posted 25-May-2002 3:35pm

Your

isn't coming out.

You have to type the * before & after the lol other wise it just looks like this lol. You must have been gone for a while when Bill updated the SC system. I know. I used to be able to type lol & it would turn ito a laugh. Not ever since Bill updated tho. Just thought I'd let you know.

BTW long time no see. How you been??

Cleo

(reply to mandy) posted 25-May-2002 3:37pm

**gives Mandy a standing ovation**

**clapping hysterically out of control**

You go girl!!

Couldn't have said it better myself.

(reply to mandy) posted 25-May-2002 4:00pm

I'm really not that sensitive, but thanks.
Is Mandy your real name? Do you think we could invite Dino in for a round of belting out the words to that song you love so much? (heh heh)

Lahdee

(reply to Cleo) posted 25-May-2002 4:10pm

I go to chats and message boards a lot so I'm used to just typing plain ol "lol"... :D

Well lately things have been hectic because we moved in with inlaws (and I hate living with other people) It was supposed to be a very short stay because we were moving to Florida, but hubby decided not to keep the job he got there, so we're stuck a while. We were supposed to move to the Florida Keys. Calgon take me away!!!!!!!!!

teatree

posted 25-May-2002 4:44pm

I don't dislike anyone.

teatree

(reply to mandy) posted 25-May-2002 4:47pm

You sounded like a cat with a hairball named Joe.

(reply to NthenSome) posted 25-May-2002 6:27pm

It is my real name. I was listening to Barry yesterday in the car.
hehehehehehe
I'm fickle.

(reply to teatree) posted 25-May-2002 6:30pm

**coff coff** JoeSchmuck **coff coff**

darkshadowsseeker

posted 25-May-2002 6:58pm

The one person that I dislike is someone I don't respond too much to unless they start attacking someone. I don't agree with this person, but that's not why I dislike him. I dislike him because his attitude is very poor and he's a braggart which is something I am intolerant of. I dislike bragging. I also have voodoo dolls.

darkshadowsseeker

(reply to mandy) posted 25-May-2002 7:00pm

Fickle pickle!

teatree

(reply to mandy) posted 25-May-2002 7:01pm

eh...I can't hear you wiht that hairball in your throat. Maybe if you stopped licking yourself and others so much.

(reply to teatree) posted 25-May-2002 7:07pm

*lick*

Galomorro

posted 25-May-2002 8:15pm

I may read some things I do not agree with -- including in a really big way, even -- but I don't dwell on it and actually don't even remember who they are usually. I figure they are entitled to their own opinions and why bother to fight with them. If someone should attack me personally I suppose I would just reply honestly, if I replied at all, and would not resort to name-calling because I don't enjoy stuff like that.

Cleo

(reply to Lahdee) posted 25-May-2002 9:24pm

**runs you a nice hot bath,hands you a tablet of Calgon,a tall glass of chilled white wine & a brand new Womans Day magazine**

Oh my God! So do I!!!! I need my space!! To have company for an over night stay is about the max that my husband & I can handle.More power to you & hang in there girl friend, it can only get better.

So were are you living now?? I know the last time I talked to you I think you were living in Louisiana???

Amanda

posted 25-May-2002 9:45pm

There are 3 or 4 people on Survey Central that I don't really like. But, I haven't seen them very much in the past few weeks. I'm not mean or rude to these people. I have said a few things to certain people when they really pissed me off, but nothing way out of line. I mostly keep things to myself until somebody really pisses me off. When somebody really pisses me off, they will know it.

kaleb777

posted 26-May-2002 9:26am

I challenge their outlook or opinion since personality doesn't play as much of a part in who we are on the internet as does what we think or try to make others think as the case may be. I love hitting BrianW with some anti-socialist facts that he can't argue against. I'm one of the privileged hundreds that he can't get on with. Of course in his mind it's all of us who have the problem.

Zang

posted 26-May-2002 12:25pm

I don't dislike anyone. There are a couple of people I've run up against in qualification now and then that try my patience, but I wouldn't say that I dislike them. I just find them kind of irritating sometimes...

romkey

posted 26-May-2002 4:32pm

there aren't many people here that I don't like. There are things that people here say that I don't like. When that happens enough, or with enough vitriol, that may evolve into me not liking them. In any event I prefer to ignore them.

I wouldn't say "I ignore all negativity"; I don't do that at all. Sometimes I'm negative.

Lahdee

(reply to Cleo) posted 26-May-2002 7:51pm

Yep we're in Louisiana.

cody

posted 26-May-2002 11:07pm

I can't think of anyone on this site I dislike.

natsim

posted 26-May-2002 11:13pm

I think there has only been one person here who has deliberately made negative comments about me, but I didn't notice until some months later, so it was not worth reacting. That person made negative comments about just about everyone here, and I think he left a while ago.
There's no-one here that I dislike, everyone is pretty respectful, even whil disagreeing, and I hope that I treat everyone here with the same respect.

Dino

posted 27-May-2002 8:45am

I have various options. Sometimes I challenge them or sometimes I ignore them unless they get shirty with other people.

There are few that I do dislike. What I don't wish is that they would go away. I think it would be wrong to avoid people and I wouldn't rule out learning something - if only about myself because of them.

Dino

(reply to NthenSome) posted 27-May-2002 8:49am

I'm not singing anything. I may get spanked.

*goes off to consider the possibility*

Cleo

(reply to Lahdee) posted 27-May-2002 3:24pm

Oh same palce then. Don't worry thing WILL inprove.Chin up!

(reply to mandy) posted 27-May-2002 5:45pm

Mandy! Dino's clearing his throat! I think he went to SC's town auditorium to rehearse a (specific?) song!

(reply to Dino) posted 27-May-2002 5:46pm

*secretly follows Dino along SC Main Street, crouches in bushes, moves, stands behind lamp post, moves...*
*hears Dino, "do re mi fa so la..."

(reply to NthenSome) posted 27-May-2002 7:42pm

Those lamps did me good yesterday. My astral-blue neon phone started glowing again.

(reply to Kristal_Rose) posted 27-May-2002 7:59pm

Haha! I was telling Chris how you had already seemed to know anything I could teach you about the lighting industry. I told him how your initial reaction to the "water buffalo" looking contraption was correct (while mine was not).
You seem to be blessed with a wonderful "common insight" with so much around you. I would have said you're "in tune" or "in touch" but I swerved Path Cliche' at the last minute, haha. But, your "common insight" is quite the gift.
Who next are you going to honor with your talents (as far as allowing them to employ those talents)? What projects are you seriously considering to hunker down to?

nasale

posted 27-May-2002 10:28pm

I'll admit that at times there's things that are said that I wish weren't said but I don't hate anyone here. None of us are perfect.

(reply to NthenSome) posted 28-May-2002 1:32am

Pick any industry (at least with an art or engineering aspect), I'd appear the same.
Right now, I'm building a water buffalo. I'd love to work in a think tank, but those jobs don't seem to actually exist. I grind to a halt when involved in any actual production, I wish I could just be a consultant spewing off next-generation concepts for cold fusion or something. At the moment, I'm writing new urban redevelopment and social-economic concepts. Who to deliver them to will be a trick. I'd ask you for a lighting job, but I have a herniated disc that could go out again carrying anything. If I could survive auctioning viewmasters or playing improv bass, that would be cool too. Research for development is another thing I have a knack for. Technical advisor for a dictator would work (like frank in 'cats cradle', hell, I've already invented ice-nine).
btw, I came up with an application you can pass on to the props people: stereo lithography - they (automotive or sattelite engineers) shoot lasers (hologram interference or triangulation) into a vat of epoxy and churn out revisions for component housings or auto fenders. With all the models in the database on colorado bl. for gaming realms and blue-screen drop-ins, new city facades or other props could be chugged out faster than sculpted from scratch.
I have several hundred projects on the drawing board and never finish any. Building a self-sufficient home would more than occupy me, and above that, I might as well serve the whole planet. Did you hear my plan of powering california with hydro-electric plants letting the ocean tides flow in and out of man-made lakes. I haven't been offline since I woke up, or I would have called tara and taken a shower by now. I could write software that takes a 1000 people out of work, but I think it's more important to solve what people could be doing instead. I'd rather see people gardening and singing than telemarketing or guarding parking lots. I think we could create some keynesian plan to create architecture and power that will last the next half millenium. Replace the Murlock with Ilois, who make pottery and violins. Everday I have new plans roll in faster than I can send them out, like the multi-level airport runway I had the day before yesterday. Give me a topic, and I'll give you 20 new inventions, but I don't think that's what most important anymore. That paradigm ended in the 60's, or at least it became apparent that upgrading to 16 button blenders wasn't improving our quality of life any.
I really don't know for sure, but my purpose is starting to gel, I feel. Just last year (when Neelix became an ambassador), I planned on becoming mayor of a ghost town, but now (little as I know of politics), mayor of LA is occuring to me. That would mean plugging into things like ballona creek restoration, cheerleading non-profit agencies, and creating business opportunities for a while first. If you have any ideas, let me know.

Dino

(reply to NthenSome) posted 28-May-2002 5:13am

Mandy! And you came and you gave without taking!

(reply to Kristal_Rose) posted 28-May-2002 5:33am

I have a wonderful idea about directing any of your material on urban development (if it discusses proposed, progressive theories or even specific programs in the societal realm). Your theses, dissertations, papers or essays - whatever format, as long as it's publication-worthy - have already fallen into the right lap.
I have a very dear friend (not "Hollywood-very-dear" - very dear) who is a professor at University of Boston. Her doctrine is education, and her dedicated focus is urban development, specifically in recognizing and remedying divestment in that social structure. I would have said "in the global sense", but I've learned from her - in a vicarious manner - that with a focus as broad and intense...so shall be the edification that dares to approach it.
The problems are so real that, at best, they have become dream-like to those who deny them. This, brought to the point of convincing the mind - and subsequently the "social psyche", as I dub "collective behavior" - that the very existence of these issues is diminished to an imagination-dominant naught. And that is "at best" because the alternative is to have those problems exist but to fight then to deny, and I would bet it's safe to say that this is not the optimum composition toward resolution.
She once told me, attempting a summation (she and I can go for hours on a single subject), "Be a black female, walk into your local supermarket, and buy hair products." She says you will find in this simple experiment that you are a fine and achievable subject in the story...until you gain a goal. As she watches that momentarily short-circuit my brain, she completes the thought and throws the kill switch up there with expressing how many more valid examples she could effortlessly throw onto the verbal deck between us, to have the same heartless landing, with the same sloppy, wet, dead fish she had with the first example.
To hear "Dr Nora", as I call her, speak is to witness the coagulation of education and wisdom, to have the visual aid at the moment enabling one to marvel at how true it is - the two components of education and wisdom do not mix well, and never dissolve together...but they certainly flow in concert with one another if they're poured from an authentic source as she and this is one hell of a long sentence, isn't it? Whew!
It's true about her though. She is the master of association, who can elevate the communication etiquettes of a 4 year old child to that of an adult (and visa-versa when she deems necessary), without even a slight raise of an eyebrow.
She's been published in journals - when in college and professionally under the genus of conclusions. They can't get her to write fast enough, only because she is too busy creating active programs based on (and practically by) her well-founded inferences. I would be happy to pass anything along to her, in whatever form, whatever stage you are comfortable. If you'd like, I'll email her in advance, and afford you the same flattering introduction of you to her that I have her to you. It should be a complimenting match, however distant.
BTW, I have contacted Tom, that city lawyer friend of mine, re the aqueduct issue. He said he thinks he's "read about it" somewhere in the papers - which I still have yet to do, I have to admit. But he says that since the news came to him from the trees, this tells him he won't exactly see it cross his desk (else he would have read about it from another source by now).
I'll keep you tabbed about it. Meanwhile email me at Joe_Dougherty@paramount.com and let me know what you think about the above idea, sharing your own proceedings about urban development.

grmbrand

posted 28-May-2002 8:23am

I don't dislike anyone on this site. You all bring something valuable to the experience.

(reply to NthenSome) posted 28-May-2002 9:13am

Well, I burned away today in steam power research (something i visit once a decade). The communications upgrade for children - don't know if it's what you mean, but I've found I can teach teach kids subjects like math in a few hours that are supposedly years ahead of them. That seperation of academic observation, armchair conception, practical creative insight, and action is a problem. Look how much the metro has spent on years of studies with no results, not even answers that even match what other countries have already achieved. I'll need a few days to write this stuff. There's a touch of it in the urban development section of my website (don't send her there; i've matured since then). The east coast has a much better handle on visionary thinking. There are plenty of brilliant Buckminster Fuller types that have only had the merest fraction of their conceptions put into practice, and entire utopian cities have even been built but no one moved in. I might need to research the failure of the commune movement of the early 70's. My instant thought was that it was an escape from society, not a participatory supplement. I'll get back to you on this.

Here's a link or two to that Cadiz water project:
http://www.cadizinc.com/c/articles/dec23a.html
http://www.chemistry.sdsu.edu/salton/WaterFromMojavePolicy.html
http://www.guardian.co.uk/Distribution/Redirect_Artifact/0,4678,0-432453,00.html

and another project they've got going in Egypt (I love this line: '...economic feasibility studies, conducted by internationally renowned firms such as Arthur Andersen') The Times had more to say on their past individual legal skirmishes. There's a chance there's some imagined virtue in what they're doing, but it all stacked up to me to say something else, and even the BLM refuses to let them lease property for what they consider a scientifically unfounded project.

posted 28-May-2002 12:21pm

nope, no one here that i dont like. I wonder if anyone here dosen't like me?

i like to argue, in fact i practicly live to argue, i try to refute any argument in the comments regardless of who it is.

ASexyBabe

posted 28-May-2002 1:32pm

I just don't

(reply to Dino) posted 28-May-2002 8:36pm

*jumps you from behind*

Dino

(reply to mandy) posted 29-May-2002 8:42am

At last I thought you'd never arrive. *bends over*

Wicksy

posted 29-May-2002 10:54am

I like everyone!!

(reply to Dino) posted 29-May-2002 8:28pm

HAWT!!!!

Babygoat666

(reply to southernyankee) posted 1-Jun-2002 6:36am

"I wonder if anyone here doesn't like me?"
Nope, at least from the lack of response to that comment you are safe. The only thing I have noticed and don't like is, it would be nice if you capitalized sentences correctly:)

(reply to southernyankee) posted 1-Jun-2002 2:38pm

(re Above comment)
And if that's the worst to come from a wide-open question like that, then I think it's safe to assume you're "liked around here", right?

(reply to Babygoat666) posted 3-Jun-2002 11:12am

Yeah, I guess I should captitize my statements more often, but then again, I can get real lazy sometimes.

Babygoat666

(reply to southernyankee) posted 3-Jun-2002 10:16pm

NP I was just tweaking your nose. I do have a question though "Southern Yankee????" Just curious. (I live in VA but grew up in MA)

(reply to Babygoat666) posted 4-Jun-2002 10:45am

oh, "southernyankee" is my al purpose internet screen name. It started as a joke, cause someone called my a yankee cause I had no "manners". And since I live in New Orleans, I gave myself the name souternyankee. From then on, that became my screen name everywhere.

Babygoat666

(reply to southernyankee) posted 5-Jun-2002 8:48am

Makes sense:) BTW I Love New Orleans, I've only been there twice but it seems to be a terrific place.