"Don't worry, ugly ducklings always turn out to be beautiful swans." I would like to kill the guy who said that to me.

Nothing comes to mind, but one of my best friends is married to a sociopath who occasionally hands out some unexpected and uncalled for gems...

When I was 14 I told my dad that I was severely depressed and wanted to kill myself. He responded,"I need this like I need another hole in my head."

When I know something for a fact and people call me paranoid-and they have NO clue about the situation. That ticks me off. I think that me and joalis are very aware and perceptive of people's behaviors, and we notice things more than average... just because I vent about stuff, people who are half wits call it paranoia. (_Y_), I say!

I can't think of anything right now.

I'm sure there have been a few occasions though.......Once my brother found his Christmas present from me (a month or so before Xmas) and gleefully told me that he knew it was a football. He was only 8 at the time, bless him, and he was so proud for figuring it out! (He hadn't been looking for it on purpose). I was really cross because it was supposed to be a surprise. If he found anything now, he would have the sensitivity to say nothing then looked surprised on Christmas Day!

I know that there have been much, much worse times, but I think I must have blocked them from my memory.

There was magazineboy of course, but he was like that with everyone.......

Easily, that would have to be, "You need to eat."
I'm thin, but good God, I don't see how anyone thinks I can get through more than 24 hours without eating. I eat plenty, I just work it off at the gym. I don't go around telling people they need to lose weight.

Right after my son Bryan died at age 13 months, a person whom I thought was a friend told me that the reason Bryan died was to punish me for something I had done in the past.

That's terrible! I'm so sorry that someone could be so unkind

It hurt more because it came from someone I thought was a friend. I knew what this person was saying was not true, but I couldn't believe that someone I have thought a friend could be so self-righteous and insensitive, especially so soon after Bryan's death.

Was it meant hurtfully?

Are you pregnant, and I wasn't,I said I guess I'm just fat.

In college, I dated this guy named Alex, whom my mother absolutely loved. When I told her I had broken up with him, the first words of her mouth were "Poor Alex."

I don't know, I was in so much shock from the comment.

People can be so unthinking when they have personal beliefs But sometimes they do it on purpose. My mum once told some Jehovah's Witnesses that she wasn't interested in converting so they saw my older brother (then, not even 2) and told her that if she didn't convert then he'd go to Hell.

That isn't the sort of anecdote I feel like relating.

That's horrible! My sister had a bit of a run-in when she was younger with an aunt by marriage who was a devout Baptist. Many Baptists feel that the Mormon religion is a cult, there is even a movie they show call the Godmakers which purports to prove that allegation. My sister was dating a Mormon and my aunt was pleading with our grandmother and telling her to make Kate break off the relationship or she would go to Hell! My grandmother kicked the aunt out of the house and told her to never come back. My grandmother wasn't too fond of religious intolerance.

"You look matronly". From my dear mother, at the beach January 2000 and it has stuck with me ever since, even though I'm much thinner now. She referred to that I looked fat and therefore older and the dreaded 'matronly'.

A former acquaintance who constantly reminded me that I'm unattractive and would never have someone who loved me. She was very shallow and felt that you couldn't succeed in life unless you were physically beautiful. Beauty fades, ugly is forever.

I wonder what Aunt Bessie would say to today if she knew I was gay? She already thought I was going to Hell for dating a Mormon, but to her being gay would be far worse than that.

You are stupid.

She would probably think you are beyond redemption and give you up as a lost cause knowing her attitudes. She would probably try to convince you to take treatment to "cure" you of being gay.

An intentionally anti-Semitic "joke". I lost a lot of respect for that person after that remark.

What a miserable thing to have someone say to you! I'm sorry you had to hear that from a "friend".

no wonder you were depressed. I hope you found someone else more supportive.

I guess you have to learn the hard way sometimes as to who your real friend are. I don't believe a real friend would have ever said that.

My OB/GYN told me in a matter of fact manner, during Mallory's first check up that he didn't advise that I get my tubes tied just yet because sometimes new babies don't make it!!!

Can you imagine any doctor with half a fudging brain saying that to a first time mother of a newborn. AND This was just after he prescribed birth control pills for my severe and suicidal post partum depression. He knew I was already upset and fatigued and riddled with new mommy worry.

He had also obviously not even spoken to the other doctor who actually delivered my baby(a specialist in high risk pregnancy)who at that point already knew that it was too dangerous for me to have another baby.

I trust you aren't seeing that doctor anymore? Sometimes I think people like that should be shot!

A real friend would never say that to someone. Only a self-righteous religious hypocrite would make such a remark to a mother who had just lost a child!

I think it's safe to say that. That pretty well describes this person, but that doesn't make what she said any less painful.

I dropped him right after that visit actually.

I can understand that.

Good for you. That guy sounded like he had the bedside manner of an ox!

YOU STINK

You'd look really handsome if you were fully white.

*stifles laughter* Mothers eh? Don't you just love em.

geez...far too amny to pick just one, but they have been mostly about my weight, madew by my grampa and now my hub, my mom and my dad and my bro....things were said to me while i was pregnant...i was recently called a high maitenence woman...and many many many many many many many others

about 3-4 months after my mother died, my partner at that time asked me when i was going to get over it.

I guess there's a reason why people generally leave home after about 18 years! God clearly intended it that way.

The funny thing is, it's not really typical of my mother to do something like that. But then again, she's never liked someone I dated as much as she liked him.

Some palm reader once told me that I was going to meet someone that my Mother wouldn't approve of. I remember thinking - Duh! like I didn't see that coming.

you really end up with some prime doctors, don't you??

I was being examined one time when I was about 15 or so at a teaching hospital and there were some interns present. It was heart-related so my chest was exposed. At the end of it all, one of the interns asked me "Does it bother you that you are less developed than the other girls at school?"
Can you believe it? Such insensitivity! I mean, I was a late bloomer and everything, but why did he have to go and say that? Anyway, I never went back (I had been going every 2 years my whole life).

Yes, I did. And I told my dad to work on his people skills.

I hope you dumped that insensitive jerk!

What is it with OB/GYNs? They must take a class in insensitivity. My Gyno once said to me, "Oh well, it's not uncommon for girls your age to be fat."

By that person's logic they are going to come back as a dung beetle for saying such a cruel thing to you.

One can only hope!

He was a doof!

Don't I, though? That's why I never go.

UG! You poor thing. Smart people can be so stupid!

Actually used the word Fat??? What a moron!

I like that!

Yeah, she did. In my mind, ten pounds overweight is not fat.

For sure! Jeez!

"Sorry about that 'altercation' I had with your mom."
I was leaving the parking lot of a bank, where an idiot had hit my mother with his car while she was walking in a crosswalk. Shattered her bone from the knee down, broke her tailbone, stitches in the back of her head...and all this jerk says is "sorry about that 'altercation'..." He apparently didn't even know what the word really means.
With five blemishes already on his driving record (one for driving on the wrong side of the road), he had no insurance, the cops who came didn't even write a report, and the guy didn't get as much as a ticket "because it was on private property".
I'll never forget his name, and he hopes I'll never see him again. My mother - with a screw in her knee large enough to freak you out - will limp for the rest of her life. With no restitution whatsoever.
"Sorry", huh? I got your "sorry". Got your "sorry" hangin', boy.

weeeeellllll, within the year we did have a parting of the ways, yes!

After an exam that didn't go too well yesterday, my mother tried explaining a maths question to me that I'd told her about. I was tired and cross and I ended up shouting at her and flouncing off to my room where I proceeded to cry......The right thing to have said to me would have been "What a silly question, never mind I'm sure that everyone else will have had the same problem."

But then again, I'm a highly strung examined teen at the moment - everything that she says could lead to me having a strop! For example:

If she tells me that it doesn't matter if I fail my exams:

"*What*, you think I'm going to fail my exams? Don't you have any faith in me? I *HATE* you! You always try and put me down!!!"

If she tells me that I'm sure to do fine and get the grades that I need:

"Why do you always assume that I'm going to do well? Why do you have to have such high-expectations of me? You're making me feel like a failure! I *HATE* you!!!"

You get the picture

"Biggles, honey, those shoes look marvelous on you, especially with that outfit - smart choice, dear! Goodness! how I love you, Biggles."
...

"I *HATE* you!"

...? Now, come on, what's all this about? You seem a smidge too smart to not know the root of all that.

All I know is that after your exams you better bake that cake you said you was going to.

When are you due? I was not expecting

Oh I know what's up, she knows too. We understand each other! I have tooooooooooooo many exams, that's all!

Do you want to know what's worse? It's her birthday on Sunday, and I'm not getting her anything......(with her blessing, I hasten to add! She says I can get her something later).

Well that's a relief. Some families just communicate that way to each other, doesn't mean any-damn-thing is wrong with it, I've learned. Some actually just show their affection in that form, so what, right?

To hurtful to mention here.

We get on fine mostly. I'm just a bit pressurised at the moment. I was in tears this morning over some pretty basic Biology..... I just know that I have so much to get though and so little time!!!

At least I get to take an occasional SC break

Well, that sort of falls into the same category as the question about the meanest thing. I've got really thick skin but if someone really wants to get to me, they just have to mention my son's disability. He was born with no fingers on one hand. I tried to raise him to believe that there is nothing he can't do and not to EVER use it as an excuse. I do not want him to ever feel embarrassed or ashamed.As much as I would like, there was the odd big mouthed SOB who said something. He's a grown man now and can take care of himself but there is still that one guy who I mentally stick my fingers in his eyeballs and pull them out.

And a just punishment, I would say. You do that, I'll go target that guy's parents. Jeze, is that the result of a parent never correcting the guy when he was a kid? Or the parent not catching it? Or just no parents?
What a bastard.

The guy was my oldest son's friend. The funny part is that he has good parents. I told his mom what he said and the mom was very concerned for my son's feelings but I guess the guy just doesn't 'get it'.He is an adult now and by the looks of it, not a very happy one. What goes around......

...lunges around (to complete the thought).

I don't remember things like that.

I'll never forget, Someone scratched insults into my locker door in high school. The misspelled my last name. So while I was pounding irreparable dents into the thing with my fists some girl walked by and said "you're a real winner" and I said "you're a really nice person for pointing that out." I'll never forget

There are 1001 ways of saying that with more tact. You should have told him not to bother with that vasectomy and kicked him square between the legs.

"At least I know who my father is!"