| User | Comment |
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Zang  | | posted 12-May-2002 1:42pm |
It seems to come up in conversation with some of my friends fairly often. Given that every topic under the sun gets discussed here, it would be hard not to. |
| Biggles | | posted 12-May-2002 1:43pm |
I do sometimes  |
Frostbrand  | | posted 12-May-2002 1:56pm |
Plenty of timesd to plenty of people. Only one (JakeD) has ever actually come here as a result. |
| cB | | posted 12-May-2002 1:57pm |
I have talked to people about it before but they think I'm a computer nerd. But I don't care, I am proud of my nerdiness! |
| juliw | | posted 12-May-2002 2:04pm |
I've mentioned it to a couple of friends from time to time |
| jkiehart | | posted 12-May-2002 2:31pm |
Heck no! Because then if they decided to come here, I would be embarrassed by many of the things I've said.
That said, when I do talk about Survey Central, I mumble something about "an Internet message board I like to visit sometimes." |
| spidertea | | posted 12-May-2002 3:06pm |
My SO and my sister hear about it now and then.
I call it my "geek time." |
| darkshadowsseeker | | posted 12-May-2002 3:18pm |
To my son, my roomie, my sister (who joined), former co-workers. |
| mandy | | posted 12-May-2002 3:21pm |
Not usually. I want to keep you all to myself. |
| mandy | | (reply to jkiehart) posted 12-May-2002 3:24pm |
I am not ashamed of anything I say here BUT, I tend to be extremely honest in my replies and comments and I am sure there are certain people in my life who might be shocked or disgusted if they read some of my ramblings. I have also said some pretty honest stuff about my family members and I am sure they would be hurt by my candor if they stumbled in and looked around. I really feel free to vent here. I like that feeling. I cannot always be 100% honest with my mother, sister, ex etc....Here I can cut loose and be *me*. |
| dora | | posted 12-May-2002 3:44pm |
Yes with my mother sometimes. I always loved answering to surveys,and I thought mine was an odd poll-addiction.I didn't know that out there many people shared my interest My mom thinks we are a bunch of weirdos I guess,but sometimes a survey brings a discussion that I like to carry on with her.So I mention SC a bit. |
| Enheduanna | | posted 12-May-2002 4:20pm |
Yeah, my boyfriend's probably really sick of hearing about it. I don't do it "all the time," but I do it more than "sometimes." I mention it to other friends now and then, too. |
| mimind | | posted 12-May-2002 4:27pm |
i do all the time. sometimes i will say a users name to someone that doesnt know what im talking about. i tell people about conversations and things i read here. if it inspires me...it might do the same to someone else. |
Galomorro  | | posted 12-May-2002 6:47pm |
Only once I think. The people I know do not like anything to do with surveys. They consider it a chore to fill out any kind of survey on line and/or are otherwise nervous about giving out info on line. They do not see any benefit in it, not even the ones that supposedsly are supposed to pay one for filling out surveys... |
| Jemmy | | posted 12-May-2002 8:44pm |
No. I really don't want people I know coming here, but I don't think they'd be interested anyway. I think a certain element of honest and anonymous-ness (I can't remember the word for that) would be taken away if people in my everyday life were members. |
Kristal_Rose   | | posted 13-May-2002 2:25am |
Yep, quite a lot. |
| freebird_old | | posted 13-May-2002 2:43am |
No, nobody knows I come here, it's kind of nice that way. It gives me a private place to escape to, share my views and opinions and not be judged. |
| skylark | | posted 13-May-2002 6:46am |
Sometimes, yeah. |
| Dino | | posted 13-May-2002 7:19am |
Sometimes. But I have to think whether they would themselves log on and read some of the things I've written. |
| grmbrand | | posted 13-May-2002 8:14am |
Sometimes, to people who are interested in the goings-on of various online communities. I don't bore non-internet people with it. |
| justjulie | | posted 13-May-2002 10:33am |
GUILTY! |
| cuteasabutton | | posted 13-May-2002 11:31am |
Yes My husband is quite familliar with all of you  |
| Biggles | | (reply to mandy) posted 13-May-2002 1:01pm |
I feel like that too. I'm happy to talk about this site, but I would never give anyone the address - especially not my family! There are things that I have said here that might hurt them if they knew, yet I know that I have to say them somewhere |
| confetti | | posted 13-May-2002 1:34pm |
I like to complain to my mom about how no one believes I am 14.
BTW, I turn 15 in 11 days (24th) ! ! ! |
| Biggles | | (reply to confetti) posted 13-May-2002 1:45pm |
Congratulations |
| Amanda | | posted 13-May-2002 2:30pm |
I do sometimes. I tell my fiance things that are going on or funny things that somebody said. It's not an all the time thing, though. I've probably mentioned something about SC to some of my family and co-workers. We're always talking about different stuff, so it might have come up. There's no telling. |
| juliw | | (reply to confetti) posted 13-May-2002 6:20pm |
Happy Birthday Phoebe! |
| mimind | | (reply to confetti) posted 13-May-2002 10:22pm |
LIAR  wheres this picture proof??????? |
| Cleo | | posted 14-May-2002 2:19am |
Yep! All the time! |
| jettles | | posted 14-May-2002 9:08am |
all the time |
| RayB | | posted 14-May-2002 12:53pm |
On a few occasions when we talk about how liberal and irresponsible the world has become. |
| confetti | | (reply to Biggles) posted 14-May-2002 3:08pm |
Thank you thank you |
| confetti | | (reply to mimind) posted 14-May-2002 3:09pm |
*sheepishly* Coming soon, coming soon...would you like a copy of my birth certificate as well? |
| actress | | posted 14-May-2002 9:42pm |
I do, and they look at me like....oh is that suppose to be exciting. They don't believe me when I say it's addictive.  |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to actress) posted 15-May-2002 1:33am |
 Yeah, it's hard to understand it myself. If I'm at a loss for what to do, I end up spending my time here. |
Wicksy  | | posted 15-May-2002 3:51am |
nah |
| actress |
Me too. Hey what city are you in? I'm in Pomona. We need to get together. I didn't get a chance last year to meet up with you guys. |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to actress) posted 15-May-2002 2:06pm |
West LA, near the intersection of La Cienega and Venice boulevards. That would be neat. |
| actress |
I'm in that area like everyday. E-mail me ursulaj21@cswebmail.com I want to ask you something. |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to actress) posted 15-May-2002 4:14pm |
done. |
| mimind | | (reply to confetti) posted 15-May-2002 8:26pm |
and social security card...drivers licsense...and two major credit cards please. |
| confetti | | (reply to mimind) posted 16-May-2002 1:21pm |
Don't forget passport. |
| roozle | | (reply to actress) posted 16-May-2002 5:21pm |
Same here. People in my household look over my shoulder and say "oh, that amazingly stupid time-waster again" and walk off. They don't get that there's anything interesting here. Oh well... just as well, I think.
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| southernyankee | | posted 17-May-2002 4:26pm |
i done it before once or twice |
| confetti | | (reply to mimind) posted 17-May-2002 5:47pm |
Er...I seem to have lost your address. Could you email it to me at firncristwen@yahoo.com? Please? |
| bobofwestgate | | posted 18-May-2002 2:20am |
I've only just started at this site, so no. |
| kaleb777 | | posted 18-May-2002 1:45pm |
No, in case they find out who I am here. |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 18-May-2002 5:16pm |
And that would be damaging how? |
| kaleb777 |
Because I don't want people I work with, especially, to know certain things about me. I think it's best to not give people I hate any ammunition against me. I'm not saying I hate everyone at work, but I really don't want them to know that much about me. I don't want my family to know all about me either. Believe me, I've said some things here that could be very damaging. I consider my mother looking at me like I am a piece of garbage quite damaging! |
| mandy | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 18-May-2002 7:22pm |
The funny thing is...to me...you seem very introverted here. I mean, about personal stuff mostly but I always sense you are being particularly guarded and self censoring about the important and scary stuff, your feelings, homelife, emotions. You certainly make it clear that no one is getting in. No one is welcome past the walls you have so diligently built. I like you *so* much and have many times been tempted to try and pry you open, but I don't. I won't even attempt to try because I am fascinated by you and I know I would end up hurt by your rejection of my attempts to get in, even though I know it wouldn't be anything personal. You just don't go there. I like that you are very forthright about politics and spiritual beliefs. Are these the things your mother and co-workers would find alarming? Or do you mean the sex stuff? You know, the fact that you say balls alot.  |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 18-May-2002 11:54pm |
My mom sounded like changing genders was a horrendous decision, but she was more than fine with it when I actually did. I can't recall you saying anything damaging. If mom's don't have unconditional love, who does? You think your coworkers will try to oust you because you resent immigration policies or the government specifying what you do with your trees? Half of them probably agree with you. Everyone has habits and opinions. Yours aren't any more bizarre than the next persons. Where does this idea that you are second class citizen come from? I've been there, and I can assure you it's all in your head, and not helping in the slightest. |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 19-May-2002 12:05am |
One of the obstacles to doing anything of merit is doing so to prove yourself. While that motive remains, you're going to end up doing something that caters to your own ends instead. I recommend you stop trying to please people (or at least being inversely concerned with it). Chances are that everyone will be happier once you do. |
| kaleb777 | | (reply to mandy) posted 19-May-2002 2:47pm |
No. My co-workers know what my political and spiritual beliefs are very well! I guess I'm worried they will take bits out of context or see a side of me I don't want them to see. I think I'm very open here, especially since I'm using my middle name which no one knows outside of SC. Some of the sex balls stuff is balls pretty full balls on at times balls don't you balls think? I can't believe you think of me like that! I am really like that with people in person. I want to get to know them more but feel like I'm behaving like a mossie buzzing around so I act cool and end up not getting anywhere. I'm scared to let you (or anyone else) in too far in case you realise you don't like what you find. You know what I mean Mandy. |
| kaleb777 |
I'm very open about my politics and other views at work and everywhere else. It's not what I believe that I worry about, because I know that I'm a reasonable person and reasonable people share the same concerns as me. I don't know. I'm attracted to people who just be themselves, and I think I do be myself but I don't be my whole self. It's not like I'm manufacturing a public me, I just edit my personality. I can't ever imagine having to go through what you did Kristal. |
| mandy | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 19-May-2002 2:57pm |
I do know exactly what you mean and I totally respect that. I still find you fabulous and intriguing. I cannot imagine you could show me anything that would make me revoke the positive feelings that I have already established towards you and your balls. |
| kaleb777 | | (reply to mandy) posted 19-May-2002 3:06pm |
Someone else said almost the same thing to me last week (not the balls bit). I think by the time I work myself out I'll be 69. I can't believe your honesty here at times. I think you know exactly who you are and what you want out of life. I really admire that and envy you it. |
| mandy | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 19-May-2002 3:25pm |
I'm just as lost as you. More so at times, I think.
I just force myself to be who I genuinely am online. It's easy to do here. If anyone objects to my natural behavior, I can ignore them or turn off the machine.
I see me in you. I see my urge to hermit away. I find myself thinking to the strangers, "Don't look at me!"..."Don't look at my things!"..."Don't comment about my food when I'm eating." "Don't ring my doorbell!".. "Leave me alone!"...."Don't call me!"..."Don't ask things of me!"
and yet...I want attention...I want everyone to love me and worship me for who I am, flawed and mad, and broken and ever so dirty deep down inside.
I've let a few very special and brilliant people in, but just very recently. People I really feel love me and are worthy of my attention and affection in return, people I know would never use or hurt me or selfishly take from me without giving in return and it is those people who I would do anything for, those people I worship and adore. Many of them are people from Survey Central. Before them, I eliminated every single person that caused me pain. I screened my calls diligently and kept my curtains closed. I gave all my love to Sue and Mallory.
Baby steps. Baby steps.
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| kaleb777 | | (reply to mandy) posted 19-May-2002 3:39pm |
That's exactly who I am! I want to be an open person, but I want to be perfect for people first so they have nothing to criticise me for or hold against me. All my calls go to a mobile so I can see who it is and know that I can turn it off any time. I have progressively eliminated all people who ever hurt me, and there are now 4 people left. One of those four has recently left the workplace and 2 of those people are my parents. You see how precarious my situation is. |
| mandy | | posted 19-May-2002 3:58pm |
Yes. I do. Sadly, I don't have the solution for either of us. I just keep blundering forward with false bravado and luckily, so far, it's working for me. I am closest to who I really want to be when I am online. IRL I hold back. I censor myself. I'm sure the people who meet me(mandy) initially online and then meet me(Mandy) in person sense this. Maybe not. It is hard for me to merge the two gurls. Mandy IRL/mandy online. If I could just act with such confidence and abandon IRL without that sick feeling of getting called on it that lingers beneath the surface, I'd probably explode with happiness. One thing I have learned is that not all people are users and pigs but many of them are and I have to be discriminating as to who I let in and who I continue involvement with. There are some people who I have recently let in who are so generous and forgiving it blows my ever loving mind and if I had stayed all cloistered away, I would never have known the complete and utter joy of their involvement in my life. You and I will never be perfect for others. But, we will probably die trying |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 19-May-2002 9:51pm |
That's how I learned it's no big thing. The internal experience of things will be generally the same no matter how intensely one extends themself into new domains. |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 19-May-2002 10:01pm |
You should experiment, at least once, with being absolutely open, befriending someone you met in line at a store. Sure, at first it might feel like jumping on your car roof on a whim to belt out your rendition of 'the sound of music', but once you've done it, you'll see 'whoa, that took no effort or actual risk, and was very rewarding'. It will then give you a new yardstick to compare other social interactions to, 'crap, if I can become close instant friends with a stranger, I can smile and look people at work in the eye.' If you never extend yourself, you'll just shrivel in a hole. Stop the advance negative programming of how it will all fudge up anyhow though. |
| kaleb777 |
I really only want to be close to a few people. What everyone else thinks doesn't matter to me, but that also means I don't care enough to get to know them at all. I don't want to get to know people I bump in to. I want to have a few people be so close to me that I can call them a brother or sister but it seems to take forever for me. I really haven't ever got close to enough people to know how it's supposed to go, as in time wise. Do you ever think that no one else in the world is able to understand you? |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 20-May-2002 4:53pm |
I don't really want to know other people either. I have enough stuff in my own head without worrying about what they've got going on too. What I'm really getting at is a way of being, such that you share love (not attachment) with everyone at every moment. It's about people being an opportunity to live warmer, not being concerned after you met someone as to whethar or not they will find the antique monopoly game they are looking for. I might even throw a prayer their way that they find it, but it still personally means nothing to me, only their happiness does, and if I can't do anything about that, i don't let it get me down at all.
I did once feel, for my first 25 years that no one could understand me, then I had my spiritual awakening and spent 3 years on a plane of consciousness where I knew for sure that no one could understand me. Once I gave up forever on the notion of anyone understanding me, I was meeting people everyday that had the same supernatural understanding as I did. People do think like you do, not all of them though; There are some radically different world and self understandings out there. It's quite evident to me how you feel. I understand your feeling that you're not understood. It's really deep at the source of your other understandings, philosophies, and behaviors. Once you learn to love yourself, you'll be over that obstacle and free to love others instead of buried in yourself. For some people that comes from being accepted by a spouse or by god, but it really doesn't stick with you until it finally comes from yourself. You could get away with calling me or mandy your sister as much as anyone on this planet could call some stranger their brother or sister. If you get onto a higher plane, you could say that of everyone, because it all becomes god, who is your closest friend. I think you have to work on that first step of loving yourself first. Love doesn't mean loving all the details of personality, it means loving your inner-being, of which your personality is an after-affect. The closest to that it means is unjudgementally forgiving and accepting your faults, though you still may need to do better in the future. Don't obsess with or get buried in your act. There's really only one being here, both the 'you' and the 'them' you are concerned with are transitory by-products. Look at your personality the same way you might be fascinated with the ecology of a swamp. Some of that algae could be seen as gross if you bother to think of it in such a light, but you can see the whole interactive process of algae, tadpoles, lily pads, and dragonfly nymphs incubating in the muck and eating fish fry as a beautiful comprehensive process. Love is a transcendant thing. It's not about rationally justifying the details. |
| kaleb777 |
I love how you compare my personality with a swamp! I don't think I've ever thanked you for your advice. Thanks. BTW, don't get too worried if I don't reply quickly to your emails. I keep forgetting to look at my emails. |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 20-May-2002 6:37pm |
I just sent a response to one a moment ago. Most personalities, including my own, are swamps. I'll hold onto that analogy for others down the line then. |
| Dino | | (reply to mandy) posted 22-May-2002 11:31am |
Gosh you really are a cutey babe. With or without the confidence.
Hell I'm the shyest person I know.
I met this guy two Saturday's ago. He came over and started speaking. He was nice y'know. But then I said "Well hate to run off but I'm going to Duckie now in Vaxhaull" and shot off to the toilet. He was waiting outside and said "Do you remember phone numbers?" and I said "No but maybe e-mail addresses" So he gave me his and I left. So I e-mailed him and invited him to Comedy Camp (Gay Comedy Club in Soho). So we went and then went for a meal. And I sat there thinking 'Is this a date?'
We met up last Saturday and went shopping in Camden and then went back to his place. And we're sitting there on the couch and he says "Can I kiss you?" and I'm surprised as I'm not reading the signals. [Stuff happened]
So after I left and then on the Monday I e-mailed his and said 'I don't think we're relationship material' I like to push people away as I get confused by there intentions and my own inadequcies. But we went out again yesterday to Comedy Camp again. And he brings up the e-mail and I say its fair to not string you along but I really like you and why should it mean we should never see each other again. We ended up kissing (he kissed first) and I get an erection of course but again I don't know where I'm going or who I am or what I want out of life. I look and don't see 'it' whatever 'it' is. I try to talk and I'm all gauche and awkward.
And I look around and see fabulous crazy people full of confidence and I wonder if I could be like them. But then I wonder if I want to be like them. I finished off by saying (before I hopped on the tube) "I take it you realise by now that I'm a problem child" but he had too many questions to answer.
What I'm saying is - and I've said it before on a recent survey - I don't trust or could be friends with anyone who was perfect. Not because it makes me feel better but because they are human and loveable because of it. I read your above text and I wanted to curl up on the sofa with you and watch trasy movies. Maybe at the end of the day we are both fudging brilliant! Maybe were sad losers! But we are human and that makes us great. |
| mandy | | (reply to Dino) posted 22-May-2002 7:25pm |
I love you...you know that, right? I would trade places with you in a heartbeat. To be young, gay and fabulous looking in London!!! HAWT! As I have said before to others here, I wish you could see yourself through my eyes...for a moment. That would be all it would take and you would rise to that level of perfection without arrogance that I see when I gaze at you through my majik rose coloured Dino adoring glasses. |
| Dino | | (reply to mandy) posted 23-May-2002 4:11am |
 Thank you! |
| nasale | | posted 24-May-2002 2:39pm |
I talk to my mother about it.I think it's great to see a wide diversity of people and what makes them 'tick.'I don't do it to criticize (I promise!) |
| jessesimm | | posted 26-May-2002 10:02am |
why would i talk about a site? |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to jessesimm) posted 27-May-2002 1:14am |
it's more like why would you talk about conversations with others. for some of us SC is a significant aspect of our lives. |
| TeenageMisfit | | posted 28-May-2002 8:51pm |
I've never thought about telling people about this site, maybe someday i will. |
| MysteryAngel | | posted 9-Jun-2002 10:00pm |
I have mentioned that i belong to the website, but i dont think i have ever mentioned anyone specific |
| Kristal_Rose | | posted 9-Jun-2002 10:45pm |
I mention mandy to my daughter a lot, trying to coax her to join SC, and a few other people when the dialogues get interesting. |
| LuridHope | | posted 18-Jun-2002 1:57am |
Yeah, But they all think I'm a geek! Ahh Well. who can argue with truth. |
| wolfchik9 | | posted 21-Jul-2002 7:56pm |
I told my friend, who is obsessed with surveys to join up. I think she forgot too. |
Iseult  | | posted 22-Aug-2002 10:58am |
no, i keep it as a top secret. a treasure i cherish. |
| anonymous | | posted 23-Aug-2002 11:17pm |
I wouldn't want to! |
