| User | Comment |
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| anonymous | | posted 29-Oct-1998 1:07pm |
Annoyingly, my parents don't seem to want me to be entirely out to them. Eventually, I'll go ahead and tell them anyway, but in the meantime it's a real pain shielding them from what they don't want to see. |
| eris | | posted 29-Oct-1998 1:19pm |
I'm out to my parents and both sets of inlaws about being gay/bi and about being in a polyamorous family. I feel astoundingly lucky and priveleged to have three sets of parents who can deal very well with this. |
| seven | | posted 30-Oct-1998 6:49am |
I'm honest with my family if that's what you're asking, since none of the examples really apply |
| anonymous | | posted 30-Oct-1998 8:32am |
I'm not "out" about my use of various drugs... (but, that's not what this survey is about) |
jettles   | | posted 30-Oct-1998 12:28pm |
i am out as a lesbian to all family members, close friends and work associates. it is something that i am very happy about and when my mom died i knew that we had nothing left unsaid between us and she knew i was happy with my life. |
| dpolicar | | posted 30-Oct-1998 6:01pm |
I like these answers. |
| lisashea | | posted 2-Nov-1998 12:45pm |
Yes, in the sense that when I had open relationships they knew about it. I never hid any of my activities from my parents. They are not my judges. If they don't like something I do, they have to deal with it. |
| Resy |
out? |
| lizzie |
I'm a heterosexual female in a monogamous relationship. I'm not leading a double life as a hooker or a man, and I'm not cheating on my SO. I don't wear my fiance's underwear (although I do steal his shirts) and I have no desire to have an operation to get a penis. Can I get any more boring?  |
| jefff | | posted 8-Nov-1998 12:59pm |
What about "out"s other than those regarding sexual-orientation - ie drug use, pagan, etc? I know a lot of "straights" that aren't really "out" to their family - that is, there is a significant part of their life and lifestyle that they keep hidden from their families. |
| hunter |
I just recently had a conversation about this, because I've never thought about having anything to be "out" to my parents about, but in this conversation, I realized that when I've had lovers, my parents have pretty much known about them, when I was in poly relationships, my parents knew about it. I've never made a confrontational issue of it, I just keep my parents relatively informed about my life and therefore they know about all these issues. The one area (which is now mostly moot) that I haven't been entirely open with my parents about (although I have been with my sisters) is drug-use. I rationalize this by telling myself that they do not have the experience to be anything but horrified by occasional, non-abusive use...they understand the idea that while alcohol can be a horrible thing, lots of people are moderate drinkers and this causes no problems in their lives. Since the only time they are aware of people using illegal drugs is when it messes up their lives noticeably, that's what they think drugs are about. If they knew to ask "You're not letting drugs mess up your life?" instead of "You never use drugs, right?" I would be able to be more honest with them on this subject. And about religion...we've all worked pretty hard not to go there. My parents know I do not practice their religion and they know I respect their beliefs. If I practiced another religion I would be open with them about this--I have certainly talked with them about my interest in Buddhism--but since I don't, there's nothing positive to say. |
| gilly | | posted 11-Nov-1998 9:40am |
I'm out to them as bi, but other than that they clearly want to know nothing about my love life, and they certainly don't want to know about poly relationships or drugs. Being bi is enough of an identity thing for me that I'm willing to force them to know; the others are more things I do than things I am, so it's not worth it. |
| miykal | | posted 28-Nov-1998 3:11am |
Never |
| kimberly |
I'm out to my family as bi and poly. They've all dealt really well - so well that it's almost bizarre. My dad and grandmother are supportive, interested, curious and thoughtful about both aspects of my life. My kid brother is non-plussed by all of it. I'm very lucky that my family accepts my life choices but I didn't look for that acceptance or approval. |
| Resy | | posted 11-Dec-1998 2:02pm |
I don't have anything to be "out" about. I'm a heterosexual, monogamous woman. |
| anonymous | | posted 3-Jan-1999 11:08am |
My wife and very close friends know I'm bi. beside that no I could never tell my family. |
