Have you been told by others that you complain too much?

Sure. Mostly when I was a kid, though.

Very rarely do I complain. My philosophy of life is that you can never have a fully bad day. Something good ALWAYS has to happen, no matter how much life seems to suck. And if it doesn't, get your ass off the chair and go to the corner for a 900-calorie sundae, and make it happen. I'm usually the one telling everyone to stop whining, to sit up straight, to look on the bright side, to relax and to breathe.

Yeah, I have been told that I complain too much before. (just wondering, who the hell wasen't) I only complain out loud if I have a good and logical reason, but I almost always complain inside my head, but after a while, most off the time I eventually come to the conclusion that I might not have been their fault (thats only for the complains in my head, I very rarely take back my complaints that I have said out loud)

Like ealier today, I have finished my assignment for ethics class, and printed it out, but for some reason it took the workers like forever to have the print out ready and I was late for class. I was about to tell them "You know, some people might be late for class" but I decided not to. Knowing that I could have done the assignment like not at the last minute, but still, its still their job to have the print out ready as soon as possible. And it wasn't the 1st time something like this happened, its just that I never really cared for timing up until that insident. So if I had a problem, I should have wanted to complain then just as much as I have wanted now knowing that something like this will happen eventually(not nessesarirly me, it could have been to someone else) I should have said something, but now its too late. What stopped me?: 1)I didn't want to be late even more, and 2) what if someone asked, "oh, what class are you late for" and I would of have said Ethics. lol

When it comes to complaining, I pick my battles as wisely as possible. Sometimes, I fudge up by complaining when I don't have a valid reason and sometimes I fudge up by not complaining when I know I should have. Its just a matter of a case by case basis.

Oh, and BTW: For anyone who have said, or will say that complaining never gets you anywhere, you don't know what the hell you're talking about. If you want for something to get done, and the people who were supposed to do something about it, but they don't because they might be, oh i dont know, lazy foul buorocrats, you should keep on complaining untill they do something about it. And if they don't, keep complaining and agravate the hell out of them to put pressure on them. Even if you don't accomplish anything, you can continuie to complain as publicly and 'loundly' as possible to ruin the person's reputations who you are complaining against to serve as a deterent for others. So using this logic, IT'S YOUR MORAL OBLIGATION TO COMPLAIN. Just don't do it too much because then people will lose thier credibity in you, and then you won't get to do all the stuff that I just mentioned earlier.

The mall had an abandoned shopping cart problem for years. I complained. The stores cleaned up the carts better after that.

The transit center had no seats at the yellow stop, ever. They had a loitering problem, and seats where there were no stops (loiterer's favorite areas) I complained. They put a bench at the yellow stop and moved seats away from all areas where you couldn't possibly be waiting for a bus.

The other day, a cab driver honked at me because I couldn't get moving on the ice. I called dispatch and complained. The dispatcher apologized on the company's behalf.

The End. (For now)

I rarely complain. Opposite. I put on a brave face even when hurting. My SO is the only person I really talk to about what is bothering me. I try not to be the kind of person who dumps on people(friends and strangers) and brings them down.

Yes. That doesn't mean constantly. If there is something annoying or wrong to do (simple, not like murder), usually it will be done by anybody at one time or another in their life. I try my hardest not to complain. Heck, now, I dont even have to try.

I ALWAYS have a legit reason to complain.
Sometimes I strive on it.

Only when I have a legitimate reason!

I have been in meetings where my boss came out crying! I like to have all the "ammo" on my side.

I have worked with enough people to know that I am not a complainer. They all complain about the fact that they are underpaid, being abused, and etc. I don't have that problem because I nip it in the bud. I'm the type that can't hide her feelings because I can't! I'M IN YOUR FACE! I have no reason to complain and I don't need a fudging union that digs into my pocket to do what I can do for myself! (Although, I can see why unions exist with all those wimpy people working for pushy bosses - anyway, I have found that the people who rely on unions are the people who call in sick most often!)

Yeah! And you sure don't need to tell ME that! I'm as cool as a cucumber and I drive like Steve McQueen (and I don't need ice cream to help me through tough times - I know, I've seen 'em and there never was any ice cream involved. I really don't know where that cliche comes from. America, maybe?)

Quite the contrary.

OK! So I complain! Like you said; only if it will help change something (preferably for my own situation!).

I'm sick of listening to the people I work with; they complain to me (as if I could change anything!) instead of complaining to the "bosses"! Dumb move! All they manage to do is annoy me and their situation remains the same! Idiots - they deserve a union!

Unless something is -really- bothering me, I try to suck it up.

I have been told that I DONT complain enough.

I've always believed that if someone tells you something then you should hear them out and then at least give is some thought.

When I was younger I used to be told that I was a bit of a whiner, but not now. I have lightened up a bit!

not just for no reason. I only complain if there is something to complain about.

I have been told by my boyfriend (after I asked) that I do complain a lot about pain, but I always have a valid reason. I'm trying not to voice my pain as much. It doesn't get me anywhere anyways. I only mention it to him because it's on my mind.

Little known fact: long ago, preserved cucumbers were placed in the coolest places of the cellar, as that was the only way they'd keep.

I have been told many times that I complain too much, but only one girl who I suspect is jealous because she thinks I always get what I want and she never does. Frankly, maybe she'd get a little more if she spoke up and asked for it. People cannot be expected to read her mind. Anyway, except for that one girl, nobody has ever said it to me, and if the subject of me complaining too much is brought up by "that girl" those who know me well deny it.

Yeah, when someone complains, its also about complaining to someone who can AND WILL do something about it. Or at least should. But complaining to the right people does help. I really hate when the people are are supposed to help people like reps not doing their jobs. Its because of them that I sweat the small stuff.

Like I said, I'm as cool as a cucumber!

Try to imagine where I work - it's a family owned business. The son is the estimator, the daughter is the uh, well, she just there, the father is the sales rep and the mother is the secretary, the son-in-law (daughter's husband) is a die-cutter in production. Most of the other employees are either, old friends or distant relations, or relations of the old friends. The others are usually sob stories about how the Macri's (the owners, they're Italian), "saved" them from whatever situation they were in.
I can't control these people (the owners) - they know everything, they don't need my help (until their computer crashes - or their decorator can't understand what the wife wants or how the husband should plant the tulips in the garden and etc...)!
The production side of the company finally got a computer for the shippers to print their own labels. They got it this week, they paid $20 for it - I didn't even bother to go look at it... (I'm the only computer savvy person in the whole shop! I know I'll have to install it anyway!)
I don't complain there - I act in a way that makes them aware of the companies downfalls. They're just slow learners but I can't help the people in production unless it impedes on my department's production. Can you believe it? Going to the Art Dept. to get shipping labels! I try to help - they have a computer now, don't they?

Yes, and I've been told that I analyze things too much, more than once as well.

Yes, and I have tried to mend my ways.

I was big whiner when I was a kid. Now, I try not to be.