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Do you react differently to people with whom you've had sexual relations?

I mean after your relationship is over, does the fact that you had sexual contact with another person influence how you react to them in any meaningful way? or does that fact have no influence on your interaction with them? I realize that often sexual relationships imply an emotional relationship and emotional relationships would almost certainly change the way you react to someone - but try to disregard the emotional aspects, and just think of the sexual ones.

Votes	Answer
20	Yes, it influences the way I react to them.
10	No, it does not influence the way I react to them.
16	I can't be sure.
14	sometimes, but not all the time
5	Other.

User	Comment
reality	posted 6-Oct-1998 10:50am how about there are nearly no people that fall into this category, so it isn't applicable at all?
lisashea	posted 6-Oct-1998 11:32am I don't think it really changes how I deal with them; I have friends I've had sex with that I still hang around with and after a while you almost forget that there was the sexual stage. It's a strong friendship that at one time had a physical component. What makes things different is the level of emotional intimacy which you asked us to discount.
phi	posted 6-Oct-1998 12:18pm Based on a little extrapolation I think that all of the difference is due to the emotional relationship and not to the sticky biological bits.
lelle	posted 6-Oct-1998 5:34pm It certainly can, but usually doesn't.
anonymous	posted 6-Oct-1998 7:59pm Wow, I don't & haven't had such intimacies with anyone other than my husband! I am wonderfully monogamous.
kirst	posted 8-Oct-1998 6:59am It definitely does.
jettles	posted 8-Oct-1998 9:46pm it is hard to separate them, i feel, because everyone i have ever had sexual relationship with i have had an emotional one as well. when it is over, relationship wise, i still feel an emotional draw because there is a reason we were together to start so we usually end up being close friends long term.
hunter	posted 9-Oct-1998 1:52pm It depends on whether not I want it to happen again. Having had sex with someone and having stayed up till 4am having a good conversation affect my interaction with people about the same.
Lorax	posted 9-Oct-1998 8:03pm Ignoring the emotional issues, I would still have to say yes, in that I am more comfortable around them naked and don't feel any ambivalence about touching/hugging them (in a non-sexual way). I guess the usual physical ambiguities are gone. Although I've found that they come back to some degree over time.
emily	posted 11-Oct-1998 8:07am Whether it was before or after the fact, every sexual encounter has had some emotional impact on me. Interacting with that person reminds me of the reason I had a sexual encounter with them in the first place. I guess the answer in my case is "It affects the way I feel about myself" and that's usually negative.
eris	posted 12-Oct-1998 3:56pm Usually, but not always.
Jody	posted 13-Oct-1998 11:03am What jen said.
dpolicar	posted 13-Oct-1998 2:05pm yup. I'm fond of saying that I don't do casual sex... it's not that I'm opposed to it, I'm just no good at it! People in my life are really important to me, and the more intimate contact I have with them the more important they become.
steve	posted 13-Oct-1998 6:09pm I don't think so, but one reacts differently to each person. This is based on who they are and on your history, and the fact that you've had sexual relations is a unique part of that history, but there are lots of other parts, too, so I'm not sure how you'd tell what's due to that versus due to other things in your shared history of unique features of their personality.
drdt	posted 13-Oct-1998 7:51pm Test sample too small. I don't think it is a factor. Jen, are you there, I think we got cut off (click, click)...

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