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Glassa
| | #1 posted August 7, 2004 at 2:25pm (EDT) |
I have this "friend" who is 33 years old. She had been looking for a job for 2 years (has no car, so she had to find something close).
So she finally gets one at a local hospital 2 weeks ago. She didn't like the job so she QUITS yesterday!
Oh, this girl pisses me off so bad! I just want to haul off and slap her. She's acting like a silly little 15 year old!
My husband got a job 2 weeks ago and he doesn't like it either, but he's not about to be a dumbass and quit when he can work his way into a better position!
This is the type of person who will never amount to anything. This is the type of person who is poor because she's made the circumstances that way. She deserves what she gets NOTHING!
If I was hiring, I sure as hell wouldn't hire someone like this, even if she was a good friend. Too much trouble.
End of my vent. | CarolL
| | #2 posted August 7, 2004 at 2:51pm (EDT) |
You know, Glassa, some people just have stronger constitutions than others do. Others know their limits and maybe for your acquaintance attending a job day after day that she hates is a strong trigger for depression or something else.
Some people know themselves better than others do. I'd rather be poor than brutally unhappy, but that is just what I know of myself.
By the way, what possible difference does it make to you that is so strong that you would want to haul off and slap her? Is she mooching from you? Depriving you of something? If you are interested in being her friend then your job is to simply support her in whatever she decides to do with HER life. Please don't think that she didn't know that she would be losing her income. Unless she is mentally challenged, she must certainly have weighed the consequences of quitting this job.
Are you tired of hearing her talk about being poor? Does she complain or are you frustrated about something else? If you think she has much more potential, maybe she is lacking self-esteem. This is a far-reaching issue and if this is the case, she probably likes the situation even less than you do.
I don't mean to sound harsh to you, Glassa, but there may be much more going on here than you know or can understand -- much like it is for us with the limited information we have here to work with. If she is just lazy or spoiled and you can't respect this, it may be time to reevaluate what each of you is getting from this "friendship".
End of rant. | bcollins
| | #3 posted August 7, 2004 at 3:16pm (EDT) |
Don't judge someone until you have walked 100 miles in their moccassins. | Glassa
| | #4 posted August 7, 2004 at 4:26pm (EDT) |
"Are you tired of hearing her talk about being poor? Does she complain "
Yes, and yes.
It's not like she doesn't have to work. She has no car, TV, radio, or air conditioning because she can't afford it. And she's not married either, so there's not a man helping financially. There aren't kids either, so at least there aren't starving babies involved.
Her only entertainment is talking on the telephone and I have resorted to screening my calls so I don't get wrapped into talking to her for hours late at night about the nonsense she's brought on herself by being so irresponsible.
And it's not like she doesn't have opportunities. She lives in downtown Columbia where there are 80 restaurants consistantly hiring among other businesses. But she doesn't want to be a waitress or cashier. I guess it's "beneath" her.
Her own family doesn't have much to do with her. I can understand why now.
It's people like this who constantly complain about their situation in life, but once their given an opportunity, they throw it away. Then blame it on someone else (like the President or something). | Glassa
| | #5 posted August 7, 2004 at 4:29pm (EDT) |
I've never gone 2 years without a job since I got my first one at age 16. And yes, I even had self-esteem issues then. But I wouldn't let it stop me, I just did my best.
For that matter, when I was 19 and flunked out of nursing school, I worked 2 jobs to help my parents pay off the school loan (out of a sense of obligation, they didn't make me). I only quit the full time job after 3 months because I was promoted to manager at the other one. | dora
| | #6 posted August 7, 2004 at 5:57pm (EDT) |
Yeah. and of course it's better to spend years in a job you hate, getting burn-out and depression and maybe lose your job again. great.
| dora
| | #7 posted August 7, 2004 at 5:58pm (EDT) |
Well said! | LindaH   
| | #8 posted August 7, 2004 at 9:52pm (EDT) |
It sounds like she needs to take an interest/aptitude inventory to find out what suits her. Suggest this. It's a big help. Some people can't work in hustle-bustle "sense of urgency" atmospheres. Only they don't recognise that this is their problem. Maybe she is one of them. There are a lot of places that don't have that atmosphere. A job compatability (interest and aptitude) inventory will help her find out where she would be most comfortable. | BerrieGrrl
| | #9 posted August 7, 2004 at 10:38pm (EDT) |
bravo! well said, my dear. | spidertea
| | #10 posted August 8, 2004 at 1:04am (EDT) |
A sincere question for Glassa:
Did someone sometime in your life accuse you of being lazy?
I have noticed that a vast majority of your posts/comments are about how you are a hard worker and everyone else is lazy.
I don't doubt you have a strong work ethic, but at times I wonder who you are trying to convince. Do you derive a lot of your self worth/esteem from working hard?
I was also wondering if maybe you felt like you weren't getting enough credit/attention for what you've done (raising kids, working a lot, etc) Like maybe you feel like you deserve some props for what you've suffered/ what you've done and no one has noticed/complimented you on it.
This is not a critisism. I know how frustrating it is when you're busting your ass and the people around you (for whatever reason) aren't. (Just tonight the guy I was working with played gameboy the whole time!!) It just seems like this is a huge emphasis in your life, and I was wondering why. | Irene007 
| | #11 posted August 9, 2004 at 11:28pm (EDT) |
Don't hold your breath, Spidertea... Glassa often avoids these kinds of posts. What you say is true - I, myself, often wonder what makes her "tick"... | Irene007
| | #12 posted August 9, 2004 at 11:52pm (EDT) |
OOPS! I stand corrected! See her reply up above! |
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