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Wicksy
| | #1 posted April 25, 2002 at 8:59am (EDT) |
I hate to admit this but I am getting bored of SC. Please give me some encouragement/reasons to stay else I will just fall into the 'Survey Central exit dungeon' and stay in oblivion forever! | freebird_old
| | #2 posted April 25, 2002 at 10:10am (EDT) |
Do you know why you are getting bored or has it just lost its spark in general? How long have you been coming here? I'm pretty new here (about a week) so all of the surveys seem new and origional to me, but to someone who has been here for a long time maybe some are starting to sound alike? Do other members interact with you enough? If you know what area the problem lies in, maybe since I'm so new I can give you a fresh view on something. | darkshadowsseeker
| | #3 posted April 25, 2002 at 11:09am (EDT) |
Wicksy-what is it about SC that's boring you? The surveys, the arguments in Forum, or just SC in general? | ASB  
| | #4 posted April 25, 2002 at 2:11pm (EDT) |
Wicksy,
We would miss you if you left. I have felt the same way in recent weeks I think because of all the new users. But I come back because I would miss everyone here if I just left and never came back. I noticed you have not made any new surveys lately. Why not try making some new surveys. Or could you do some stats for me? 
ASB | Biggles  
| | #5 posted April 25, 2002 at 2:18pm (EDT) |
Think of all the people you know here that you're never going to be able to meet offline. Think of the things that you can discuss here that don't even come up in conversations offline.
If it's dragging, maybe you should take a break for a bit. If you don't miss the site (and the users!) after a while then maybe you've just outgrown SC. It will be very sad for the rest of us because you're so much a part of the community here........
How's bond_girl? I haven't seen her for a bit either | CarolL
| | #6 posted April 25, 2002 at 2:53pm (EDT) |
Try posting some new surveys. Then you'll want to check on them. It works for me, anyway. | spidertea
| | #7 posted April 25, 2002 at 4:15pm (EDT) |
Just think of how much spidertea loves you.  | mandy
| | #8 posted April 25, 2002 at 6:02pm (EDT) |
I'll miss you if you go but if you're not getting the enjoyment you used to out of SC then by all means find other fun stuff to do. I love you dearly and as long as I have your current email addy and you send me some pics of your sweet face every once in a while, I'll be fine.
*kiss*
Your surveys will be sorely missed! | Frostbrand
| | #9 posted April 25, 2002 at 6:17pm (EDT) |
If Joe, Kaleb, ASB stop attributing malicious intents to me that I do not have, I may just join you in that dungeon. Might I suggest a suitable replacement? http://www.nitcentral.com/discus They're good people, mostly. You cna come by and 'watch' my cybersoap in progress, instead of waiting for the archvied chapters to go up on http://www.geocities.com/greymoransrevenge | darkshadowsseeker
| | #10 posted April 25, 2002 at 6:24pm (EDT) |
BrianW-Just remember, "he who is without sin may cast the first stone". You're casting aspersions at others, yet you are equally guilty. | mimind
| | #11 posted April 25, 2002 at 8:31pm (EDT) |
i give this place a week break sometimes....it gets boring..all the arguing and the surveys about favorite sodas and the like...give it a rest for awhile. ive only been here for about 8 months and i get so bored i wonder why i like this place..then i come back just to see whats up and some conversation between people will spark my interest anew. issues not talked about in day to day life do get alot more attention here, thats what keeps my attention. | kaleb777
| | #12 posted April 25, 2002 at 9:04pm (EDT) |
Wake up Brian. If a lot of people accuse you of behaving irrationally and attacking people for no reason, why can't you accept that you are really like that? You are abrasive, abrupt and don't seem to have the social skills needed to interact with other humans without antagonizing them. I'm sure this site is not the only place you've heard this. Don't you seem to get people angry easily in person? Have you ever thought about how well you would receive some of the comments you make to other people. I remember when I first had a reply from you. I had never had anything to do with you but your first reply to me was one of the most unwarranted and disproportionate attacks I have ever had. I replied to you trying to make my point of view clear to you but you replied aggressively again. I remember I did not swear once during that interaction. It was after that you decided to filter me.
All I can say is, what goes around comes around. If you reply out of the blue with offensive epithets and aggression, people are going to return it. You're gaetting what you give here Brian. You aren't an innocent party here and everyone knows it. You need to calm down and stop treating people like crap. You might find people start treating you better too.
| Wicksy
| | #13 posted April 26, 2002 at 3:39am (EDT) |
Well, thanks for all your encouragement, I really do appreciate it!
Ok, I have decided to create some surveys and see if that gives me the buzz again
*thinks of some new surveys*
| Frostbrand
| | #14 posted April 26, 2002 at 5:08pm (EDT) |
One should be able to point out that this angry little rant came as a reply to me being sympathetic to Wicksy's feelings. I was just trying to be a pal, and you turn it into an excuse to attack me.
Wicksy don't listen to him. SC is agreat place that isn't worht giving up on that easy. | kaleb777
| | #15 posted April 26, 2002 at 7:00pm (EDT) |
I wasn't talking to Wicksy. That's why I mentioned your name. It wasn't a rant either. I was trying to make you aware of how people perceive you here since you seem to be unable to judge your behaviour yourself. I didn't attack you, you of all people should know the difference between an attack and a rational argument. | cody
| | #16 posted April 27, 2002 at 1:20am (EDT) |
Oftentimes I imagine we are perceived as being rough individuals. I hurt feelings sometimes. There is this case in life where I can acknowledge that I am doing something which society deems undesirable, yet I am unapologetic. I suppose that would be a divergence.
Brian learned, at some point, that being powerful with people will win him success. It's a characteristic we see a lot in "men who were taught to be men by women who learned how to be men by watching men who never learned how to be men" (That's attributable to an awesome Las Vegas poet named Bakeem btw). Basically, as boys we figure out that we can push women around fairly easily and that by getting loud and feeling -hurtingy we will probably win the argument when the girl gives up. Our loving mothers, aunts, and sisters, forgive us quickly for the hurt we gave them. It's woman's nature :).
I believe that in the realm that the ability was learned in... the 'back off Mom' realm, it was probably the only way. If you don't get to be like this with mom you really will never get the old woman to let you to live your own life. But in other realms... eh... people tend to be less forgiving.
Brian also learned, from the liberals who surround him, that being overly concerned with people's feelings is important. How paradoxical!
So at the same time he is hurting feelings he is saying 'We must worry about those poor people's FEELINGS.------_gosh darn It.'
I'm a lot like he is. I'm unforgiving though. I set out to change people, not to make them like me.
New Subject
Situational Vs. Permanent changing--
If you are nice to someone they'll probably PRETEND to agree more with you during a discussion than if you are mean to them. They will not, however, walk away with anything you've told them.
If you are mean to them they will turn up the heat--Natural Human Tendency to Resist Outside Change. They'll get mad at you, and they'll PRETEND not to hear a word you say. Difference is, next time they have that same argument, they'll have adjusted their beliefs slightly towards yours. They'll bend towards you in the future... permanently.
In those heated, mud-slinging, down and dirty debates, we take things away. We don't CONCEDE because we are trying to win, but we take things away. Years of arguing on the computer has really caused me to be an extremely powerful speaker and writer. I'm a lecture writer. I'm charismatic. IRL as well. I've also, slowly, over the years, taken into account the insults and comments people have made about me. Most notably I've slowly swallowed the 'it's just an opinion pill' and I've made attempts to not be so arrogant... I'm actually a LOT different than I used to be. SOMETHING changed me... it was all those direct attacks from people. They helped me, by hurting me, to develop a more powerful personality.
We arrive at a paradox. It's nice that Brian tells people the truth. Some people want to be told the truth and it does everyone good, yes, and it will probably help to change them if you say something worth saying...
however.... at the same time, Kaleb makes a good point. Brian can be a dick sometimes and people won't like him so much. Also, he should look before he leaps... like accusing me of being a cookie cutter christian (c'mon, tell me that one wasn't obviously incorrect) and the spelling issue we see here.
So, Brian, I'd say, eh, keep being a dick, but... start backing it up a little better!
| LindaH  
| | #17 posted April 27, 2002 at 10:54am (EDT) |
I set out to change people, so that they become more accomodating and tolerant. Residual effect: Having no reason to dislike me. So in a way, I'm doing both. | TylersMamma
| | #18 posted April 27, 2002 at 3:01pm (EDT) |
I've actually been feeling the same lately but like everyone else has said I'd miss everyone here (even when they're difficult). I still want to stick it out so please don't go... You'd be missed... | Wicksy
| | #19 posted April 29, 2002 at 11:12am (EDT) |
Ok, I will stay.......for you | darkshadowsseeker
| | #20 posted April 29, 2002 at 5:37pm (EDT) |
You're such a sweetie Wicksy! | TylersMamma
| | #21 posted April 30, 2002 at 3:51am (EDT) |
| Frostbrand
| | #22 posted April 30, 2002 at 11:07pm (EDT) |
Oh please. My Mom was an abusive pain in the ass. I feel NO compassion for bigots or stupid people. No paradoxical situation there pal. Save your psychoanalyzing for genuine psychos, 'kay? |
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