Forum: General Topic: She wants to break up!! Author Message caviartaste #1 posted August 28, 2007 at 10:59pm (EST)   I thought the recipes were hillarious....but pleaaaaaaaaaase tell me...........that kolaz was a troll from somewhere else?.......I thought kolaz would never leave. caviartaste #2 posted August 25, 2007 at 10:28pm (EST) edited August 25, 2007 at 10:32pm (EST)   SY- this subject interests me a little bit - so i'm going to jump in here....I know that R47 probably won't respond this way but I'd say that after having read the article you posted that you've got to take into consideration how much of the research and therefore literature in both the mental health field and the medical field is funded on a large scale by the capitalists, not the idealists, who don't have the patients' best interests at heart. They are always looking at Return on Investment. For one decade, capatilism may determine that the thing to do would be to keep vets in in-patient settings because they can charge seperately for all those services and get a higher dollar amount for those services. But as healthcare moved more toward a Managed Care philosophy rather than privatized insurance - rebundled services were all the rage....and so that type of healthcare dollar amount dropped a little. Now, maybe for them it's easier to find ways to charge people a higher dollar amount in outpatient services - so the research and therefore the literature reflect that outpatient services are best. You have to know how to "read into" what our capitalist economy's literature is really saying. It's pretty much about how they want to get paid. If I took a job within one of those settings - I would know to be aware of the constraints that setting gave me, and treat my patients as best I could given the box I've been put in. Everybody gets a dollar for something, but we have to have researchers out there writing what they believe to be what would help people mentally and physically and quite frankly - that CANNOT BE DONE without a certain amount of bias because they know that it will affect the future of that big devil that is the Insurance Industry. And you can bet your ass that they word things in the literature with that in mind. But just like any other field- you have to have some documentation to support what you're doing at any given time. caviartaste #3 posted August 22, 2007 at 9:47pm (EST)   Thank you cloud.

Forum: General Topic: Some advice please. Author Message caviartaste #4 posted August 21, 2007 at 11:29pm (EST)   Richard47 wrote: > Oh my, you haven't read the OTHER post....yet! Have you ever seen the movie "Inside Man" with Jodie Foster? you got the line wrong! It's "you are a magnificent chicken"! LOL

Forum: General Topic: She wants to break up!! Author Message caviartaste #5 posted August 21, 2007 at 11:19pm (EST)   because I started teaching software for Nursing Homes instead of doing Social Services anymore, and that led to my current career in Managed Care systems and software support. I had too soft of a heart for Social work and actually brought way too much of it home with me. you may actually have a hard time believing it...but I had 17 people die on me in one month....it was a really hot July...and I was very very close to them....and it just hurt waaaay too much. caviartaste #6 posted August 21, 2007 at 11:09pm (EST)   1443B and the last year it was renewed was 1997

Forum: General Topic: Some advice please. Author Message caviartaste #7 posted August 21, 2007 at 10:33pm (EST)   anytime dear. caviartaste #8 posted August 21, 2007 at 10:24pm (EST)   southernyankee wrote: > Boy, you sure catch sarcasm very well. he's not your typical male.

Forum: General Topic: She wants to break up!! Author Message caviartaste #9 posted August 21, 2007 at 9:58pm (EST) edited August 21, 2007 at 10:04pm (EST)   Here's an interesting collection of quotes: "Thank God you do not work in the field of psychology!!!" "If other people believe that my communication hinges on counseling, they would be wrong...and those who do have some knowledge of the counseling profession 'would' know the difference. So, I am asking on this forum for someone to verify this. Someone with the intelligence to see that my personal opinions, even on mental health issues, are not indictative of counseling. In other words Snake, you are wrong. My opinions annoy people? What a revelation?? I have heard you attack the intergrity of LJD on more than one occassion. We all annoy each other from time to time. We're human. Of course.... you are free to disagree with the opinion of others, it is even healthy....but keep the discussion focused on yourself or who you are communicating with. Don't come in from left field with 'assumed reasoning' without anything supporting it (ever your own experience or education). And last, do not interject what is at the core of counseling. You do not have THAT experience to back it up, like it or not,. Argumentitive or not, theoretically or not. If you think that is putting you down, so be it but I am not doing that, as well. " "Thank God that you are in no position to decide career choices for those (other than yourself). You do not know me, and, I have never communicated with you (no matter what screen name that I… as well as many others… have used). I suggest that you keep your limited judgmental opinions to yourself. I have apologized for my past deceptions and if you cannot accept that, it is not up to me to convince you otherwise. I have given Bill my credentials in an honest effort to return to a space where I do have those that I have been close to. He has accepted them, as so should you. I am counseling no one on this site and have never professed that was my intention upon returning. All of this had been discussed with the people who matter, which is a list that does not include you (nor has it ever). As for my narcissistic film endeavors, look towards your own self-image (as well as your well bloated screen name) before judging others....and you will, most likely, find the answer there." As for your narcissism - let me point out that one thing that narcissists often do is project their issues onto someone else. Since you don't know what my "bloated" *laughs* screen-name stands for...let me tell you....it's short for "caviar-taste, beer-budget"....so it's hardley as refined as you assumed at first glance. >7 posted July 22, 2005 at 3:15pm (EDT) >caviartaste wrote: > hey whizkid....how are you certified? and what's your license number? > what's your degree? > the way you judge people - I wouldn't tell you anything. A good therapist > doesn't make assumptions about people. Your comments demonstrate > that you continually do this. >#8 posted July 22, 2005 at 2:51pm (EDT) >edited July 22, 2005 at 2:58pm (EDT) >hey whizkid....how are you certified? and what's your license number? what's your degree? >the way you judge people - I wouldn't tell you anything. A good therapist doesn't make assumptions about people. Your comments demonstrate that you continually do this. >According to “bill”— > #5 posted August 23, 2005 at 7:48am (EDT) >I've banned a couple more Richard accounts since whizkid: MissyTabby and Romeo441. >If any of you have suspicions about other accounts, please email me privately about it. I don't want to create a witch hunt over stuff like this... in a lot of cases, we may suspect, but we're wrong (e.g. >verouge). So, private is best. I can do some checks to confirm it if it's him. You say that I should accept a self-professed professional's credentials IN GOOD FAITH? One who is a known liar? What would you do if you were me? You HAVEN'T EARNED ANY OF THE RESPECT YOU COME HERE ASKING FOR!!! Give us a reason to believe or trust you. That's all I'm asking. Would you say that you adhere to the standard practices of doing NO HARM, of UNIVERSALITY: actions that hold for EVERYONE regardless of time, place or people involved, of duty of being a truthful respector of persons - one who honors their rights, and their responsibilities, and not treating them as a mere means to your own ends? Surely you understand having to work for it. Trust from any social group doesn't come free. Loosen up and don't go scattering so much advice.....Take that ADVICE from everyone else here. That's something that's taught VERY EARLY ON in counseling education courses. Counseling is more about listening than soliciting your advice or telling other people how much they don't know about your profession. Truth is - if they took a psych 101 class in high school - they DO have a pretty darn good idea. Most of it is what I call "dog psychology". Punish the dog - the dog stays away from you. Reward it - he comes back. It AIN'T rocket science - that's for sure! (just ask cloud). Most people just need a sounding board. Of course there are complex cases, and people who need social resources and what not, and people who have maintenence issues that will never go away. But people that are on THIS website more than likely didn't come here to get into a conversation about that. So leave that at the office if people tell you it's getting old. Some of us truly don't realize that we're analyzing people all the way out the door and ostracizing ourselves like someone had earlier said. If people are trying to help YOU by being honest with you about how they're feeling about what you might have said....don't shoot them down by telling THEM what THEY don't KNOW - DO WHAT YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO DO BEST!!!!!!!! .....listen. ...and if you're really good....you'll even take some of it to heart.

Forum: General Topic: Ugh Author Message caviartaste #10 posted August 21, 2007 at 12:07am (EST)   they - i was just thinking about you this week! I got a new job in another department at my work and met this girl whose personality reminds me very much of you! She has a cool sense of humor and a daughter about Mary's age. It's wild though b/c she's blond w/blue eyes...so not your twin...but ...just reminds me of you alot. I guess I've been missing you guys alot lately - it's a bad sign that I've been WORKING too much!!!! Next page (only 10 shown here)